This is probably way overasked.

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But how do you people normally fit in with other people? I have issues with doing so whether it's online since I generally snap at other people who try to act stupid online for attention when I'm discussing something or when they try bragging about something (so many people do this which makes fitting in hard). I have issues with doing so off of the internet since I frequently snap at people around the area where I live in since there are so many elderly folks who can't tolerate me at all. How do you generally fit in?

First, find a group of normals that are more crazy, more noticeble but are geniue nice people. Then everyone would see you as pratically normal compared to them.

Thats what i do

I'm not good at "fitting in", so to speak. I'm really shy, so most people just think I'm this sweet quiet thing, but inside I'm usually pretty mad at all the stupidity around me. Probably a reason I don't really have m/any friends in real life... People learned that if they push me, I'll bite their heads off. I stopped caring eventually. If people don't like who I am, oh well. I'm tired of trying to be different from who I am.

Online I think I fit in quite well. I'm a little anxious but it's controllable, and without sounding cocky (because trust me, i'm not) I think i'm pretty good at getting my message across with written words. It's a much more comfortable way of communicating.

In 'real life', i'm very shy. Had you asked me this face to face I would not have answered. I'm not going to lean on Aspergers as an excuse for anything, but personally i've learned that talking and understanding others isn't my strong point so I simply don't do it unless I have to. Written words have no inflection, tone or correlating body language in which to trip me up and cause a problem, I love them for that.

I think my perception and expectation of myself isn't a real reflection of how I appear. I always feel like I'm acting and that people can see right through me. I'm in my head way too much but honestly I don't know maybe they can see through me, it is sort of a self fulfilling prophecy.

Online is different since you can carefully craft how you are perceived or at least you can at least believe it as such since you're anonymous but so are the people responding. You're not giving or getting any feedback that can be misinterpreted except words.