"Who did you go with?" question

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When I briefly saw a therapist past December, I had a funny misunderstanding. I told him about how I took a cruise in spring of 2012, and it made me question my entire career choice. (Why? The great experiences I had made me realize how IT people get mistreated in every job.) When I was telling him about it, the conversation went something like this
Therapist: "Who did you go with?"
Aspie1: "Carnival."
Therapist: "No, I meant which people came on the cruise with you?"
Aspie1: "Oh, I went solo."

The rest of the conversation in irrelevant to this thread. I'm sure my response was skewed. In the cruising community, "who" is often used to refer to the cruise line, and "solo" is a respectful way of saying "alone". I use that term to refer to myself when telling people about my cruise; they understand it, but I've never heard any non-cruisers use it.

Anyway, I'm wondering how other aspies would interpret this question. Whether or not you've cruised before, give your answers. (Mods, move this thread if you feel that you must, but I'd rather you didn't.)

I don't know really, it depends. I heard NTs answer to the wrong one before. Like last week I overheard a conversation between 2 NTs at work, one was going to the Caribbean on an airoplane and the other one asked, ''who are you going with?'' and the first one answered, ''Virgin Atlantic'', then the second one corrected her and said, ''no, I meant are you going with family or...?''

It's a common mistake.

i dont understand this thread.

I would answer with my travel companions (or lack thereof) but either answer is valid and if you give the one that the person asking isn't looking for then they need to be more specific.

people ask me that a lot and I usually reply
"What do you mean?"
(question gets repeated but with where I went)
"I went by myself, why would I bring someone?"

There seems to be an implied value that the more people or just one person will improve the experience for people.

This is not the case for me, often the solo trips are the best trips in the world.

"Who did you go with?" ~ "Who did you date?"

Now i'm confused....is this question about whether you bring people where your going or the method or company by which you got there?

I don't consider companies to be people, so it's unlikely if I was asked a question of "who" that I would answer a company's name. I might answer individuals who are employees of the company.

I think that I would have interpreted the questions as who were my travelling companions, so I would say "No one."

The question is subjective. I would assume, because people generally don't care about the cruise line (except as small talk), that they wanted to know who the individual went with.

Given that it's a "therapist", I'd say that is even more likely.

I have not cruised before. I would like to however.

I have to admit I was confused by your response. Carnival? Who's carnival? Did you go with a carnival? I would've never thought the person was asking about the cruise line.

I would interpret it as "Who were your travelling companions,", but I can see why you interpreted it the way you did. That would have been my second interpretation of the question.

I would have interpreted it to be a question about my travel companions (or lack thereof).

I despise people who do this to me. And they're many.

Me: I'm so happy, I'm going on vacat-
Idiot: Who are you going with?

I wonder how they'd like it if I went like this:

Them: I'm so happy, yesterday at work my bos-
Me: How much do you earn?