Are these Aspie traits, or something else?

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1. I am very impatient when it comes to waiting for stuff and also very impatient when I explain something to someone and they need longer to fully understand. I usually start yelling and thinking "seriously? how could you not get this?" I usually have low tolerance for this.

2. I have pretty much zero tolerance for when people accidentally make mistakes that could have been avoided. I can't help it, but I feel that it's a shame they're not smarter than that. Like for example, when I hear on the news that someone's house burned down because they accidentally left a candle burning or the stove on or whatever. The only thing I can think is "Seriously!?"

3. Sometimes I feel like I'm smarter than others and better than them and I enjoy it when I'm proven right The feeling is satisfying!

4. I don't want to work. Not because I'm depressed or feeling fatigued or anything, I just couldn't stand the idea of me actually working for a living, but luckily I found an easy way to make money online and my parents are ok with me living at home as long as I want if I contribute some money each month. . This is the same reason I'm not going to college.

Just wondering, thanks.

Honestly? I would have to see a bigger picture, because in the absence of other information, they kinda seem like jerk traits to me. I don't mean that to be rude at all because I am assuming you have other issues as well, but those alone sound rather narcissistic to me. I would not volunteer this opinion if you were not asking for opinions, btw.

Yeah, I was thinking narcissistic too at first, your probably right. Thank you for your opinion on this. I wish I wouldn't have these traits but it's just the way I think and every time I try to not think that way I end up still always thinking that way. oh well....

Please don't misunderstand what I said...those traits, if they stood alone, sound narcissistic to me. But when combined with other things, it may change the picture.

We all have natural ways of responding to things that we do not like (or at least I do). In time, you can learn to temper these natural responses and keep them inside so that those around you do not realize you have them and are not offended.

For example, the words "idiot" and "stupid" come to mind WAY more than they ever come out of my mouth. At first I just learned not to say them when I thought them, but now I actually mentally challenge myself when I think them. First of all, no one is in control of the amount of intelligence they were born with. While I am aware that my intelligence level is higher than most, that is not due to my own doing. It's how I was born, so it is inappropriate for me to both blame others for something they cannot help (their own intelligence) and to take credit for something that I did not create (my own intelligence). Secondly, people cannot control the families and circumstances that they were born in to. I am lucky that not only was I born with more than average raw intelligence, I was also born into a family that modeled and prized critical thinking. Not everyone finds themselves in that set of circumstances and as an adult to overcome your entire childhood is a daunting feat.

You sound like you are still young since you are mentioning not going to college. I would not give up hope of trying to mediate these tendencies if you do not want to have them.

I think I have some in me as well. But I hear everyone is a little bit.

No.

I'm 18 right now and graduated high school last year. I already tried many times to change the way I think when my mind wants to think they're idiots or stupid, but it's not happening! (but maybe it will years from now) It's like if I was eating something that tastes really nasty and I tried to get myself to think it tastes delicious..... not happening.

With some limited exceptions, I generally take people as they are without trying to label them or make fun of them. In every one of those few exceptions that I can think of, my disdain for them was a result of increasing familiarity and horror at their antisocial behavior that was likely to lead them to spending significant portions of their lives in prison.

LOL! Don't take offense, but you are SO YOUNG! Of course you haven't been able to change it yet.

It takes years of discipline to change things like that.

I would say I was in my 30's before I would say that catching myself in the act of the negative thinking became as natural as the negative thinking.

I still think "stupid" and "idiot." I probably always will. But I challenge myself immediately. It is an act of self discipline and I consider the unchecked thoughts of "stupid" and "idiot" as self-indulgent. I find self-indulgence rather repulsive, so I am motivated to try to keep it in check.

Keep working at it.

Unless, of course, you are not bothered by it, or the consequences it will have in your life. Then--by all means--go on your merry way.

The fact that you asked about it, though, leads me to think you do not like this. In which case it is up to you to work on changing it.

My parents do number 2 too. When people do stupid things, they will say they are stupid but not to their faces of course.

Actually, I don't really care, but my parents care and sometimes wonder why I think like that. Of course, I have no answer besides that I just do. I'm actually just relying on time to change me. I've noticed there have ways of thinking about things for me that have changed as I got older. In this case I will just hope for the same and not really do anything but wait. trying to change the way I think about something has never worked for me, it was all about time.

Fair enough. There are certain things about my kids that have changed in time that don't appear to be related to anything but maturation. You are clearly old enough to make decisions for yourself.

I think I have those tendencies, too, but not excessively.

If I had the choice, then, I would definitely choose not to work. It would be so much easier. Maybe you can tell us what your "easy way to make money online" is. I think many people with AS who are home-stuck would love to do the same!

Most people don't really want to work, and would love to live on free money if they could. (NOT saying that's what you're doing).

It could be denial... finding fault in everything and everyone to distract attention away from the fact that you're afraid of the world. It could be that you're not above an honest day's labor, you're just afraid of the unknowns associated with it. Staying at home will always feel safe and comfortable when someone else is footing the bill.

+1

How many people have told you or heard them say if they won one million dollars (pounds where you live) they would retire or quit their job?

I have hard that quite a bit.