How do you feel about emotionally needy people?

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Just wanted to see if there is a majority response from people on the spectrum. I'm talking about needy as in emotionally or needing support for their problems and leaning on you.

Last edited by whirlingmind on 22 Jan 2013, 6:41 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Not sure what to answer, depends on the day. Sometimes it's option 2, sometimes option 3.

I was thing much the same before I spotted your post I do not know how to pick an answer in that poll.

Depends on the kind of neediness. Starving children I'll help, but people with first world problems I feel like kicking in the throat.

When I was young, I was attracted to emotionally needy people. Giving others a shoulder to cry on etc made me feel worthwhile and needed (normally I felt worthless and malfunctioning). Now that I am older and better adjusted needy people just drain me. I can't stand them.

It depends on the situation.

If the person has a genuine interest in building himself up, I would be glad to have him lean on me.

If he is capable of taking help from others to build himself up, yet chooses not to..... That's another story.

I used to be somebody in the latter category. I don't want to enable my past self's tendency to be an emotional leech - that's the worst possible thing anybody can do for him.

I keep a garland of garlic over the threshold to my house that keeps the needy, whiny vampires away. It seems to work quite well.

Typically, they aggravate me and I try not to spend time with them. That's not always the case though.. Sometimes I have to deal with them anyways and so I can manage.

"Emotionally needy" means someone who is in constant need of emotional support. It is partly a matter of personality and partly of environment, especially their past.

As for me--I really don't have the resources for someone like that. I tend to try to maintain a friendly distance, because I know that if they start to lean on me, I can't hold them up. In many cases maybe this is the best approach because people who are constantly supported don't learn to stand on their own. But I can't bring myself to actually rebuff them. I may be introverted and prefer to socialize only rarely, but I refuse to hurt someone without a very good reason.

i was emotionally needy and there in the desert of human relations i found the occasional watering hole to slake my thirst. now that i have learnt to be emotionally self-relient i try to pay it forward, as it were, in gratitude for the aforementioned rare watering holes.

Needing support that has practical solutions I can deal with. Emotionally needy, histrionic, attention seeking "vampires" make me run.

I, myself, am emotionally needy- enough said!

I myself am afraid that I'm very emotionally needy. I want to help someone who's in a similar situation, but it also makes me uncomfortable because a) strong emotions in general make me feel uncomfortable and b) I don't know how to deal with them. I feel bad because I know I'm not the best person (or even a remotely decent person) to help them, but it's not like I can just foist them off on someone who is better equipped.

the first step is to have your heart in the right place, IOW you should be willing to at least listen to what needy folk have to say, because nobody else will give them the time of day or even tell them to go eff themselves, they are used to a minimum of at least indifference [if not hatred] on the part of everybody else in their lives.

If it weren't for emotionally needy people, I'd have had no friends as an adult. I am someone you can dump all your petty mind-barf on all day long and I won't judge you or gossip to anyone else about it. I have several people's deep, dark secrets forever sealed, as safely as if they'd told them to a priest. Because I don't really care. It just goes in one ear and out the other. I will never do anything bad to you, and I am trustworthy and honest and polite. But you will know nearly nothing about me unless you directly ask. And most people don't.