i hate it when NTs.....

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i hate it, HAAATTTTEEE it when NTs says "everyone is weird" and "i'm so weird" but when IM weird i get picked on to death. does anyone else have those things that they just HATE about NTs (not a fan of the neurotypical public

When they keep saying I to do something and not
lift a finger to help me do it, ie, 'get a job" "get a girlfriend"
get this get that, bleah!

However I am not sure that this is always an NT thing,
but I will just call it a Mr./Miss Normal thing.

0h my god yes!! I sometimes try to give a "well, i'm weird" disclaimer to soften my oddities in an attempt to relate and get along with coworkers and others. But then they say i'm not weird or call themselves weird. and the next thing I know, i'm being judged and executed for failing to reach their acceptable idea of normal. i just want to scream sometimes...can i please just be my naturally weird self without all of this nonsense??

There are 2 standards of weird-

1) A specific thing that makes you different in a very narrow context. NT's use and even cultivate this to look cute or stand apart from the crowd even though they conform to the crowd in every meaningful way.

2) ASD weird where you are different in many ways. You don't have to try, you're just different without trying.

When an NT says they are weird it is an entirely different meaning than you saying you're weird. You have exceeded the NT weirdness threshold and gone from cute weird to just plain weird.

For example- Cindy Crawford has a "beauty mark" (AKA mole). If she had 5 moles on her face she would exceed the weird threshold and it would turn from "awww you have a beauty mark " to "Damn! WTF happened to your face?! "

I hate it when NTs call me rude or weird for simply being honest, but apparently think it's okay to annoy everyone by blasting loud music at 4 am or to break the house rules by smoking everywhere inside. And if you politely tell them that you suffer from not being able to sleep because they're having a party next room every night, they will tell you right in your face that they just don't give a s**t. But yeah, it's much worse to break unimportant, unwritten social "rules" by accident or to just say the truth.

Pretty much my only real gripe with them. They sometimes poke fun at me or whatever, but I think most people have issues with that to some extent. But the fact that they have expectations and goals for me to accomplish without my input and without them helping.

That and their "But you can do this so you should be able to do this" type of thought process. Like I had a meltdown today over driving in rush hour traffic. A guy suggests I should be an airplane pilot because I'm smart. I tell him "I can barely drive." And he responds "Aren't you just putting yourself down too much or not putting enough stock in yourself?" No man, I can barely drive, seriously.

Also on a minor note, I don't like the fact they lack originality in thought process. I've been listening to Japanese pop since I was like 12, and everyone thought it was weird/lame. Then "Gangnam Style" becomes the most popular song in the world? WTF, it's a silly Korean song, and most of the Japanese songs I listened to are light years better than it.

The double standards.

People who do too much banter instead of just having a normal conversation. (Annoying example):-
NT 1: Shut up!
NT 2: You shut up!
(NT 1 hits NT 2 on arm)
NT 2: You little s**t!
NT 1: Uh! Did you hear what she just called me?
(And it goes on and on. It's what I call ''stupid pretend fighting''. Thankfully not every NT does this, and the NTs that don't generally do this are the ones I get on with the most).

The way NTs always have the upper hand in everything against Aspies. Take a look at this:-

Aspie: That person just glared at me!
NT: Well maybe they're just having a bad day or something. You need to learn that other people have problems too.

(Aspie glares at someone)
NT: I know you're having a bad day today but the first thing you must learn is to not take it out on other people by glaring at them and expecting them to guess why!

Ugh!

Last edited by Joe90 on 08 Feb 2013, 8:29 am, edited 1 time in total.

NTs often criticize shy people for not talking much even though they ignore the shy person themselves for the most part, so they're doing the same thing in a way. Just one of the double-standards NTs have I guess.

They always want to jabber-jabber-jabber and take it personally if you don't want to join in. Being constantly engaged socially feels like an assault on raw nerves.

The way they constantly banter as if that's how they communicate with each other, and make me feel left out.

The way they stick together and make me sound wrong and stupid even when I'm actually right.

They expect me to be able to do the same things as they, such as enjoy loud music or drive a car, and think I'm weird/selfish etc if I am not.

They are not capable of paying attention to detail.

They are unreliable.