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Why is it everywhere I go I get mis perceived as slow or ret*d. I'm so sick of it

Yesterday in school some guy mocked in the hallway in front of his friends; he said hi to me in a tone that sould like he was ret*d. I thought this crap ended when you got to college.


Why do you people always think I'm ret*d? I'm so sick of being misunderstood, and therefore mistreated.

It seems everything I got involved with; school; work; summer camp; extracuricular activites, I was ridiculed in some of way. I'm sick of it, and want it to stop. I want to be treated as a human being, not as sub human. Rant over.



Justin

Yeah I know what you mean, people think i'm stupid.

If I was stupid, it wouldn't really matter, but I'm probably smarter than half the people that treat me like that so it does annoy me.

The main NT treatment I get that I can't be bothered with nowdays are snide comments from bitchy girls and stuck up boys.

I prefer to have friends in their 20's or older.

Ya it seems alot of the bad treatment we receive are from ignorant people who don't understand us.

But I did report the harassment to the head of my department, and she said she will take care of it.

BTW, I noticed your avatar has link. Zelda is one of my favorite games of alll times. I love ocarinia of time? Whats your favorite game?


Justin

I remember one time when I was in high school and some guy called me "ret*d," then "mentally challenged," both of which I hate. I went into class in tears, and two guys I knew asked me what had happened and nearly killed the guy for treating me like that. Bless those guys!

Once in a great while, people will say, "I can't believe you have a learning disability, you are so smart!! !" I always want to say to them, "What the hell do you think I am, ret*d?"

People that actually know me better, and aren't shielded by silly ideas about what makes a person smart, know i'm intelligent and wise.

My mum knows me better than anyone in the world.. She's watched me grow up and had to live with my learning disabilities and other symptoms of AS.

Yeah, I get that sometimes, it's probably best to try and take it as a compliment. People that don't really understand AS/Autism are probably trying to compliment you.



My 3 fav games are OoT, Majora's Mask and The wind waker.

Ocarina and MM take ties at 1st place, windwaker gets second because there are several aspects which I feel ruin the game.

I notice I have to spend a lot of time in life pretending to be stupider than I am just to be able to communicate with people. I have to act like I care about a bunch of banal, pointless crap in order to even attempt to fit in. Such as watching American Idol or shopping at the Wholesale Club.

And, please, I'm no genius or intellectual--just a regular girl with what I think is an average amount of brains. But I learned back in grade school that it's instant death to raise one's hand in class too often.

At the same time, I notice people over-explain everything to me. Like they think I can't grasp an idea, so they tell it to me 5 different ways, just to make sure I get it. Very annoying. I suspect I must have a weird look on my face that makes it seem like I'm not listening. Or like I don't "get it".

SkyBar

Yeah, me too. I often try to act stupid I guess, a combination of being silly and trying not to be different.



OMG tell me about it!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! They won't be quiet about telling you how to do things, and you get it the first time, even if you don't ask.

It really sux. I ask alot of questions, but it's not because i'm stupid, but because i'm onto it and want to do things exactly right. Other people just do it without asking and half the time don't do it to a high standard.

You're exactly right! And I notice that because I tend to be quiet at work--my job is pretty confusing and detail-oriented so I have to really concentrate--people think I'm not working very hard.
SkyBar

I know what you mean. People don't seem to be able to tell the difference between looking for clarity and not understanding them - I got that in phone work a lot as people are usually too vague. I tend to be like, 'look, if you tell me EXACTLY what you want, I can probably fix it for you, ok?' Very frustrating

Dunc

I get treated similarly. I am fairly intelligent, I think, can understand and figure out complex things. But I need to take my time understanding people before I can answer peoples questions.

The usual interaction goes like this. A co-worker will ask a question of me. Then I have to wait and think what was asked so I blurt out a "ah" or "um". Then I dig in my brain for an answer, sometimes the question asked doesn't fit with the information I have. So I try usually unsuccesfully to explain an answer, taking my time setting up details as to my reasoning that I came up with the answer. This process isn't fast enough for most people, so they just shrug it off before I get a chance to explain and assume I don't know.

And if I actually do get a chance to explain everything in detail, I fill in the details with "I think" or "if this is true" or "I am not comlpetley sure about this". I do this because I don't trust my memory, and don't want to give false information, so if I have a shade of doubt I will cover myself from error. Of couse most people will lie if they are a bit unsure and give the info anyways, which is the way most people expects me to act.

So my slow explanations, combined with my lack of certainty leawes people with thinking I am not the smartest.

At least initially, if I get a chance to explain anything involving mathematics they start to see my intelligence. Or I just explain it right over their heads... that happens too. But after a while people will see me do something great that is beyond their initial impressions. But I don't think people ever get a true sense of what I am capable of.

I wish I could explain things better....

The thing that upsets me the most is, I think people think I'm deceitful because I find it difficult to look someone in the eye.

Also "Loss Prevention" in most of the stores I shop in, tend to follow me around. It must be my posture or something because I, for sure, have never stolen anything.

Link to the Past was the last Zelda game of note.

That is all.

I get followed around by store detectives too- I'm never completely sure if I'm just paranoid or if they really do think I look like a theif.

Melvis sometimes I feel like turning around and asking them if they needed any help finding something!

I understand what you mean, Duncvis. But for me, if people are not precise with their instructions or speech, I don't tend to understand what they want.

Asking for clarification does not make me stupid, though. I just can't infer things like other people seem to do. I hate it because I often misinterpret teachers' instructions, or have a hard time and end up doing things several times before I can get them right.

I wwalked into Safeway, this morning and there were two young women standing by the front bin. One of the witches got into my face and bellowed, "Slow Man" and I ignored her completley. Than I heard another female voice say, "I don't like your attitude." That witch should come and live with me for a day when my Parents are out of town. Than she would know that I'm not "Slow Man" but that I'm a very quick WOMAN. Than maybe she will learn to be special. I thought about how ignorant that woman was as I walked my Dog, played with him, afterwards, gave the two bathrooms a quick, deep cleaning, and cooked a Weight Watchers Dish for myself, that I have in the oven as I'm typing this story. It doesn't matter what the over-aged children of my Community think of my Intelligence and my Psyical Speed and Strength. All that matters is what I think of myself, and I don't think that my mind is slow. I truly ignored somebody for the first time in my life, today. I'm so proud of myself.