my partner of 5 years has Asperger's

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I am a 50+ woman who is in a live-in relationship with a 50 year old, wonderful, caring, sweet guy. I knew
after a year or so that something just wasn't right...I asked him to take an online test for Asperger's and he
scored low on the Spectrum. He is willing to talk a little bit about it, but has yet to go to a Therapist or seek
any help.
Although I love him and appreciate his many qualities, I feel stuck due to the lack of real intimacy. We are in
separate bedrooms, and it is a rare occasion when anything physical happens...when it does, it is not pleasing
to me except for the fact that we are actually in embrace. He is either incapable or uncomfortable touching me
in any way, except for hugs and a few short kisses.
I feel that he does really care for me, and he shows me in many ways by doing things for me, around the house
and with our cats, buys me flowers, etc. He does computer work at home and sits in front of the screen, with the TV
on all day long. He is productive, earns about 1/2 of my salary (I travel for a living), which is not a problem....but I am
a bit frustrated and now my expectations have lowered so much that I feel there will never be intimacy again in my
life.
Anyone else?

Thanks for listening.

Hi, Welcome to Wrong Planet!

I like sharing fantasies and predictable touch. If your boyfriend is similar, that might open the door to different kinds of sexy dancing?

I also need a goodly amount of alone time, even when I like spending time with a person.