POLL: Hardest Part of Having Aspergers?

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For those who have or feel they have Asperger's (and I guess we can throw in PDD-NOS and HFA):

I know these may seem like broad issues, but on the whole, if you had to pick one, what would you say is the most difficult part of having Asperger's in your daily life, on the whole?

Feel free to elaborate, especially if you select the other category.

The reason I ask is because on other sites I've been involved with, people talk about all sorts of different problems. No two Aspies are the same. But it seems the biggest problem is living in a world dominated by NTs.

So, by all means, I'd love to hear what you feel your biggest problem is with having AS.

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For me it is verbal comprehension which in turn leads to social problems. I can't have a decent conversation with someone when I zone out or get lost. I'm much better now that I'm an adult.

Definitely social issues, and so far, the majority appears to agree with me. :B

I would say the biggest problem with having Aspergers is the difficulty in finding adequate employment. The sensory overloading can be tough to work through and the social issues make you feel alone but as you read on wrong planet, once an aspie finds there niche in life they tend to sail quite well through the rest of there life. I would go so far to say, if people really wanted to help us all they would do their best to help us find, get and keep a job.

I would say Social Issues hehe especially with me in my first introductory YouTube Vid Im a little nervous and after watching my own vid I am so corny haha i noticed I kinda repeated the same thing! [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JCGRLWMh10w&feature=youtu.be[/youtube]

Definitely the social issues. I don't have a problem with being introverted and spending time alone with my DVDs and books. But I would like to have friends that I can occasionally hang out with and not be so terrified of dating. I get tired of doing things alone, so much so that I tend to not do anything fun anymore.

Verbal comprehension is difficult, I have great difficulty following dialogue on TV and in movies, terrible time understanding accents (I live in a very multicultural area), difficulty following instructions, difficulty understanding if someone is joking with me or lying...yeah verbal comprehension is a constant problem for me. Social issues...hmm ever since I started taking SSRI's for anxiety I have started to talk more spontaneously and effectively...which...which is great!

Social issues and verbal comprehension is intertwined, at least for me.

Having Aspergers would be a lot easier if I could connect with someone. Humans aren't designed to be socially isolated.

Executive dysfunction.

Social issues, definitely. I don't even experience the other problems, and even my social life is going pretty well. For me, AS is more a quirk than an impairment, though it wasn't always like that...

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tmAb3p42gIU&list=HL1361525677[/youtube]Being an Aspie is basicly like being a gaijin in Japan is probably the best way to describe it!

Not being able to handle being around other people and needing a routine to do things.

For me it is social issues. The rest are no problem.

The worst for me are sensority issues and verbal comprehension, but I voted oversensority issues because they are my biggest issue.
I didn't put social issues because I don't care for social interactions that much, therefore I don't really consider it an issue.
I also have meltdowns, but they're not the biggest issue anymore.

All the symptoms on the AS list makes life unbearable for me, but I did vote ''social issues'' because if there was a cure that could only cure one significant Aspie trait, I would take one to cure the social issues. I so desperately want to be more able to chat to people without appearing odd, distant or nervous. At work all my colleagues often have a ton of things to say when they pass each other in the hallways or wherever, but I can't do that for long. I just say ''hi'' or something, and may only stop quickly if I have something specific to ask. I hate being like this, I want my mind to naturally have lots of things to say, things what people want to hear and can easily contribute to in a conversation.

Also I would just love to go to a social event and get chatting to people in a group. My cousins on my mum's side never used to know the cousins on my dad's side, but in the last few years they have been going to the same pub and now all their mates are friends with each other's mates and my mum's nieces and nephews are friends with my dad's nieces and nephews (hope that makes sense). Whenever I went to the pub with them, I may have said a few words to a couple of of brother's friends or my cousin's friends, but it didn't really go anyway, probably because I have this vibe that says ''I am a very socially anxious person and I am no good with socialising''.

I want rid of all of that s**t.

This pretty much sums it up. The biggest problem to me is that because AS is not something physically apparent, people always assume I'm able to perform the same as an NT. It's very frustrating to have my limitations brushed off just because I appear normal.

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Right now I have a program head who can't understand why I'm having difficulties completing a 9-course load per semester program--and he knows I have AS and GI problems. He just keeps telling me if I want it enough then I'll find a way, or I should consider medication. Last I checked the only medication people with AS take is to treat their co-morbid disorders, not the AS specifically! I have no problems showing up to class and completing the assignments by the deadlines (given I'm not having GI problems). However, the sheer amount of work was just overworking me to the point of resorting to unhealthy coping mechanisms. Note: I tried registering with Disability Services, but had no success.
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