Self-absorbed?

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Hi,

What is the difference between being self-absorbed and being AS? I have often been accused of being self-absorbed especially when fully engaged in a "special interest" or when I'm quite stressed out from my family or other things.

Apparently being self-absorbed is a bad thing and I do try hard to remember to show interest in other people, because I know it's important to them and I really hate being accused of acting like an a$$hole.

Anybody?

The both look the same. I see no difference with an aspie doing it.

One is narcissistic, one is being focused on your interests. Big difference.

I try to being less self-absorbed too. I know it´s a bad thing, but I usually don´t even realize when I´m self-absorbed. No one is perfect and flawless.

The term "self-absorbed" tends to mean "focused on oneself". This is not the same thing as being focused on one's interests. Enjoying solitary activities has nothing to do with narcissism or self-absorption.

An introverted person should have the right to spend time alone, and should not feel bad for doing so.

i dont know with me, really. im not exactly selfish but then i am. my husband (adhd) and his best friend (nt) are typically selfish - which is what i notice in a lot of men i have ever met.

im selfish in a diferent way i suppose. i can care for other people. well saying that theres not many people that i know, only my husband, some of his friends, and my best friend (well according to her we are 'best friends' which i find quite smothering but never mind). when somebody is talking to me i like to listen and if they are telling me an issue i try to think of ways to support, if i like them that is.

i do have a tendancy to think that everybodys against me and think that its all about me, but that might come from not trusting people. like last week one of my coworkers came up to me and said the manager wants to see me in the office. i yelled at him 'why?????' and thought somebody had got me into trouble or something but he said 'your not in trouble, she just wants to see you'. i didnt talk to this coworker for the rest of the day. i suppose that is selfish yes .

The difference is simple. When you're self-absorb, you're being egotistic and doing it on purpose. On the other hand, alot of times, the "self-absorb" quality that NTs fling on people with aspergers is incorrect. The aspie isn't being self-absorb, they're just talking about what they know. We're just trying to express relevant information.

Of course, that doesn't mean aspies can't be self-absorb.