A few questions, sate my curiosity

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I have some questions for you, I'm really curious.

1) Does commotion and general activity around you make you uncomfortable? When I'm doing something and someone near me is doing something or is in the same room, I can't concentrate fully.

2) How long do you listen to music during a day? I listen to it almost constantly, wearing headphones in order to eliminate any outside noise.

3.) What's your relationship with light? Light makes me nervous. During summer, I put a dark blanket on my window because otherwise my room gets too bright which makes me uncomfortable. I also don't understand why sunny weather makes people so happy, it makes me feel uneasy.

4) How do you deal with things that are outside of your comfort zone? I went out last night, came in front of a club, heard loud music and flickering light effects, I simply couldn't force myself to get in there. I'm lucky that I've been blessed with a great friend who has similar notions.

5) Do you know how to flirt? I sure as hell don't. My friend gave me some advice: smile at a girl, if she smiles back, you're in. I'm yet to test this, it's extremely hard for me to look at other people's faces, even when I know they can't see me.

6) Do you actively pursue sex? I can't for the life of me understand why people put in so much time in this.
7) Does the society putting pressure on you to do things, like pursuing sex, and basically saying you're ''missing out'' affect you in any way? I always say how can I miss out on something I don't want.

So, yeah, I'm real interested in your responses, thanks.

Haha you made me laugh, the part about the seductive faces people use because I feel the exact same way. I imagine myself being looked at from another perspective while trying to be seductive and I feel I look utterly ridiculous. I would rather use a funny face than a seductive one.

I also try to avoid uncomfortable situations but there's so much pressure about getting out of your zone and I always ask myself why do I have to do thing I'm uncomfortable with in order to obtain something I don't really want and a lot of people just say that I have to because that's the way it is.

It reminds me actually, you know when you see someone do an expression, maybe e.g. a funny one, and you do it yourself and say "you made a funny face like this", whenever I've done that, if I look in the mirror, although it feels as if I'm doing the same expression they did, the face I'm doing doesn't look like it! It's as if I think my brain is telling my face the right thing to do but it's actually not. Facial expressions, other than spontaneous laughing or frowning etc., feel pretty forced and unnatural to me. And if I am in a situation where I feel I am expected to smile, my face starts to ache, maybe everyone gets this but it's as if my smile muscles aren't used enough to do it for long, or maybe it's the fakeness of it that makes it hurt.

Regarding uncomfortable situations, the more people pressure me the more stressed I feel and the more they make me feel as if I don't want to do it. Even if they can explain logically why it would be OK, I can't make myself and once I've extricated myself from the situation I feel enormous relief.

Yes, my smiles in photos are normally fake too (unless I have drunk some alcohol )

Making your bed, let me give you some logic and maybe I can change your habit of a lifetime: If you don't make your bed, the sheet is crumpled, then if you get into it unmade, it is not so comfy, especially if you have sensory issues. The feeling of a nice smooth sheet when you get into bed is a lot nicer. Also, people tend to shed skin cells and hairs, so it's nice to brush off your sheet to freshen it, tuck it nice and tight (even fitted sheets crumple) and leave your duvet pulled back to air the bed for at least an hour before you make it too. This ensures that moisture from your sweat evaporates and helps lessen dust mites. Dust mites are revolting, they feed on your shed skin cells and poo on your bedding - wouldn't you want to brush that off? Also, bed bugs are attracted to warmth and moisture, so an un-freshened, unmade bed is more likely to attract them.

Hope that's convinced you!

Oh I make my bed, but not in an aesthetically pleasing manner, so it's not so crumpled as to annoy me. I simply change my sheets often since I can't stand hair on the sheets and I brush it when it it becomes annoying but after I've done that I don't see the point in taking time to make it pleasing to the eye, especially since I have my own room and no one ever enters it.

1. I'm the same as you. If I'm to do something that requires concentration, I don't want other people to be around. Especially talking people have to go away.

2. I only listen music when I can just concentrate on listening to it. If I am doing something else, there is no way I could have music on. It would annoy me very badly.

3. I love light. I like sunny days. I can even sleep with my fluorescent light on in my room. That's what I do quite often. I feel safe when I can see things clearly. I wouldn't say I can't sleep in darkness.

4. I tend to avoid anything outside of my comfort zone. That's why I tend to procrastinate. I tend to leave things till the last minute. I'm very aware this is one habit that I need grow out of. I don't know how.

5. I have no idea how to flirt. I'm not even interested in it.

6. I don't pursue sex. I think I feel the same as you do about this.

You added numbers to the points too late! I thought #6 and 7 were one point.

Any way, for #7, I tend to be put off by pressure and tend to do the opposite of what they try to pressure me into doing. I'm easily put off by popular/trendy things. I don't care about what other people value. I value what I value. So I basically seem to have the same attitude as yours.

1) Does commotion and general activity around you make you uncomfortable?

It depends on what I am trying to do. If I don't have anything that needs to get done, then commotion doesn't really bother me. I can easily tune it out and turn inward, or I can try to focus on the little sounds and motions that I find interesting.

If I am trying to study, read or write, then I need a quiet, clean and private place to do that. Usually that means either going to my room or to the library. For some reason my ability to tune things out vanishes when I actually need it to focus.

2) How long do you listen to music during a day?

I tend to go on music listening "binges." That is to say, I may go days or weeks without really listening to music other than in casual settings, and then one day I will listen to music all day long. There isn't really a consistent pattern.

3.) What's your relationship with light?

I love natural light! Artificial light makes me feel groggy and slow, especially if it is dim. I try to keep windows open during the day for this reason, and also because it just seems more environmentally responsible.

The one situation in which sunlight really bothers me, however, is after it snows -- because the light reflects off of the snow in such a way that I can't open my eyes fully for at least a couple of minutes after stepping out because it is so painful.

Hm, I suppose it would relevant to mention that I have "transitions" lenses, which means that my normal glasses dim when it's bright outside. So my exposure to sunlight is a bit less intense than it is for most people.

[EDIT: Oh, I completely forgot to mention that I LOVE the nighttime as well, even moreso than daytime! I often go for walks at night because I like how deserted and calm everything is. Everything takes on a different light (haha) during the night hours and it really fascinates me. It's like I've entered a different realm; it's wonderful. Anyway, back to your regularly scheduled post.]

4) How do you deal with things that are outside of your comfort zone?

Sometimes I like stepping out of my comfort zone, but for the most part I avoid it.

5) Do you know how to flirt?

Nope. I don't really like being flirted to, either, although that doesn't happen very often. It just makes me uncomfortable.

6) Do you actively pursue sex?

Not really, but it does interest me. I think my fascination in sex might be more "scientific" than it is for most people? I'm just really curious about the biological systems behind human sexual response and how it all interacts with the pleasure center of the brain. It's all very amusing in a way! Is that too much information?

7) Does the society putting pressure on you to do things, like pursuing sex, and basically saying you're ''missing out'' affect you in any way?

It sort of annoys me how some people think that you're missing out on life if you don't experience it in a certain way, because they're projecting what is fun and rewarding for them onto everyone else. :/

But I tend not to let it bother me too much. People can have their fun, and I'll have mine.