Tell other you have asperger or not ?

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Would you tell other people that you have asperger or no so you will not treated differently ?
Some of my family members are acting weird after i told them i have asperger. It almost like they are sympathetic toward me.


Sorry for my poor grammar >_<.

Don't expect people to be forgiving because of your condition. Tell it to the wrong people, and you could risk them using it against you if they needed to.

People might feel sorry for someone with a disability, but in the end it does not give the disabled a free ticket to anything, more likely the opposite.

I would tell people in stages, I.E. make jokes about being mind blind etc.

It's a lot to take in and it's hard to imagine for those that have it, even harder for those that don't. Give it time and introduce people to the concept in stages.

I generally don't unless they're close friends or I really trust and know the person enough to know whether it's okay to.

I've been pretty open with everything in general. Told my parents I was gay, have my sexual orientation listed on my Facebook and have my suspicions about my AS on their too. I've also spoken with my parents about that and they have, sensibly enough, recommended just seeing what my psychologist says when I see her. I wouldn't recommend being too worried about this sort of thing, and it can only hurt you if you're embarrassed about it. People don't tend to give me s**t about my sexuality or anything else because I think they realise that I don't have any intention of giving them my time if they do.

I won't unless asked, or a situation comes up that requires I reveal that information in order to explain my reaction to some circumstance.

Currently, the only people aware of my mental health problems are immediate family.

I tell pretty much everyone I meet. I find it takes conscious effort not to tell people certain things if it comes up in conversation. It's really hard for me to edit what I say.

I don't tell people when I first meet them, because I am afraid that is all they will see. But most people I am close to can tell there is something different about me, and knew there was even before my diagnosis. I have slowly started tell a few people, and some of it has gone well and some of it hasn't. I told my roommate last year when I was first diagnosed and one of them was literally terrified of me and I was told I couldn't talk to her anymore because she wasn't used to dealing with my kind of mental illness. Since then I have been more careful about who I have told. This semester, about halfway through the semester once I trusted my roommates, it came up in conversation and I told them. I think if you are interacting with someone regularly it can help them understand you better, for instance my roommates now know that if I am doing something that makes them uncomfortable they need to actually say that instead of trying to hint at it, because I don't pick up on those hints very well.

I lost my ability to communicate in school when I was 7. I had talked for the first few years ( kindergarten 1st grade. ) than When on a diet called the scd diet kind of like this dairy wheat free diet, when I was 16. I regained that ability to speak out in public. I mean I could talk at home but not in school it was strange. So all the kids would always ask me why don't you talk. So When I was able to talk the last two years of school I told them and the whole school knew.

Everyone seemed to be really supportive of me and made a lot of friends. I just ditched them all to become a loner after high school because all they wanted to do was smoke pot and drink.

anyway the only problem I ever had was when this really mean kid says to me. "Why do you tell people you have autism is it because you want them to feel sorry for you? because I don't feel sorry for you."

rudest thing any one ever said.

there was really only this one group of low lives that didn't understand and everyone hated them any away.

As a general rule I do not tell people about my AS. I think that some things are best not talked about, so as to minimize future issues.

I told my parents and one of my aunts immediately and I think it has really helped my relations with my mother. It was always good but now she understands better the things she didn't get about me, which has eased things between us.
I ended up telling someone else once, and that went fine, but someone else overheard it and he treated me like I had suddenly dropped 100 in IQ after that. He had dealt with me without problems before, but after that he spoke very slowly and deliberately, with feigned patience and phony smile, very obviously trying. I have avoided that place since, and since I only knew him from that shop, problem solved. I am very relieved that it happened in a place I can easily avoid instead of with say someone living next door to me who I'd have to deal with time and again for a long time afterwards.

There is absolutely no way I ever tell anyone again. I don't wanna be a local poster girl for ASDs, I don't wanna be anyone's cause. It's easier to keep quiet. I can honestly say that I understand it too. Having information like that thrown at you is hard to take. I find it extremely hard to deal with people with CP, Down's syndrome and schizophrenia (and probably other things too that I haven't encountered yet). So I do understand where they're coming from.

Last edited by Skilpadde on 13 Mar 2013, 2:43 am, edited 1 time in total.

When I first told my folks you could see the lightbulb light up over my mother's head....her Ah-Ha! moment. She had run me around to all kinds of specialists in the late 70's, early 80's to no avail. My father on the other hand didn't like me pointing out that he probably has it too. He's likely got some sensory issues and OCD too but he's not open to input like that. He'll just continue to drive my mother crazy for another 20 years or so.

A few months ago I was having dinner with an older couple who were relating that their grandson was just diagnosed with Asperger's and you could tell they were uncertain and fearful for his future so I told them I have it to reassure them he will likely have a promising future. It seems people fear the worst because they don't know what it is. They're afraid their child or grandchild will never get an education or a job or drive a car or fall in love, etc, etc.

I debated sharing it with my academic advisor when I met with her today but I really couldn't see what her or the college could do to accommodate me better knowing that information. I already have good grades so it's not like I need a tutor or anything. I think the only thing that I notice is it takes me considerably longer to complete my homework than the instructors estimate it should take students. That's my blend of procrastination, clarification, and perfection.

My mother was the one who told me she thinks I have it, so there was no hiding it from my family. I've told three of my friends, two of whom were receptive, one who thinks it's just high sensitivity, and I've told my classmates in my psychology class; I kind of had to seeing as I was lecturing on autism: I knew more about it than the teacher and she knew it, so she asked if I would teach it, in the process I kind of had to explain how I knew so much about it. I've never had any problems from people about it though.