Can your whole day get screwed in one quick moment?

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I am desperately trying to come to terms with my ASD, so I am planning my days ahead of time. Today, I dropped my daughter off at daycare, packaged some ebay sales, went and got my tire fixed, ran a couple of errands and came back home.

I knocked a project off my to do list that has been on it for going on six weeks, only a half an hour...but it felt good to get something done. I had a whole list of things to keep working on, then my mother in law let the dogs out without supervising them. One dug out under the fence and escaped. An hour later, dog is back, I've spent the last hour anxious and pissed off, and now I'm sitting on my chair, done.

That's how it works, I had a few other things that I had planned for the day, but I'm done now, all because someone else is irresponsible and lazy.

Now I sit here and short circuit for another hour until my wife gets home and calms me down.

Pretty much except there's no one here to calm me down.

Happens in a split second with me and the rest of my day is ruined.

When it comes to ruining a perfectly good day I always feel like my intense stress levels are to blame. One small thing goes wrong and then BOOM my whole life feels like a total letdown!

Yeah, things like that can happen from time to time.. you just need to learn to cope with them better, calm yourself, relax and carry on. Just breathe, take a few minutes in solitude, go for a walk, meditate, have a toke if you're into that sort of thing, think happy thoughts, focus on what you're doing and don't let things ruin you for hours/days/weeks. I know, easier said than done, but while I can still blow up and get mad (ie an argument I had yesterday) I'm better able to calm myself and move on quicker and quicker than I have been in the past. Just takes practice. I was right fired up with an argument yesterday right before I went to work, but I managed to put it out my mind and was in a pretty relaxed and positive mood all evening, got my job done and went home. If I dwelled on it and let it keep my fired up I'd have been a wreck and unable to do my job w/o getting frustrated with customers or coworkers etc, but they had nothing to do with my argument and didn't deserve to have any spillover of my earlier mood - so, in keeping with some of the best advice I've ever received.. to "Be present," I try to focus my thoughts, feelings, actions & everything on the moment at hand. Once I wasn't thinking about the argument, I couldn't possibly be pissed off, and all was well. I certainly haven't perfected this, but I have gotten much better at it. Practice makes perfect, after all. Just have to keep trying.

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Yep. And it's usually over some minor-in-the-grand-scheme-of-things problem, too.

5 March at 11:17 pm...

yeah something goes wrong then it seems like everything goes wrong. it seems like in my life if it cant go wrong it will, so I end up just preparing for disaster.