What was early dating like for you: I'm the female Sheldon?

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Have been watching Big Bang Theory and Sheldon makes total sense to me. Tonight was watching an episode where he said it was hard enough for him to share space with his best friend he'd known for 7 years nevermind a girlfriend.

I didn't realise I felt like that until I was much older than the character and initially had crushes and dated. I like the way his character seems totally comfortable with the way he is and is not trying to fit in or please anyone else .. I am so uncomfortable in my own skin.

Would be interested in anyone elses dating experiences ...have now given up on it myself. The more I get to know someone the more I want to be on my own.

My perspective is from a male viewpoint, but I started dating when I was 16. I tended to date girls based on out mutual similarities or interests, a somewhat vague criteria.

The first girl I dated broke up with me because she felt I was cold and distant, I had attempted to kiss her on the cheek once, but it was awkward afterward.

The second girl I dated when I was about 20, and I talked to her online for about 6 months and we met for a comic convention for a week, but we only kissed once and played video games most of the time, we broke up shortly after that and she went back to her last boyfriend (she noted she wanted someone more aggressive as well). I felt pretty numbed by the experience and missed her greatly and couldn't stand to talk to her online anymore. I figured I would eventually look again or just resign myself to being a hermit (happily, but lonely).

Five years later I met my now wife at my workplace and began dating a few months after, we started off at a coffee shop sharing our life stories and they mirrored mine almost perfectly, and both had a passion for animals. We moved onto dinner, bowling, and a movie. We dated about once every week from there and were engaged two months later because we were so enthralled and often finished each other sentences and had the same thoughts (really random ones, like this picture at the flea market of Abe Lincoln looked to us more like Michael Jackson). We have been married now for a year and a half and are quite happy with eachother and work together on our weaknesses. She has more anger problems with people, which tend to make me anxious, but she also finds it hard to deal with my need for personal time since she draws disability and I work 8 hours a day, leaving not a lot of room for intimacy outside of weekends. We both suspect we are on the spectrum.

I wouldn't advise you to date just to fit in, but it is nice to have a partner to help and recieve help from day to day.

i get a little to close and well....excited....i suppose, or sometimes i aviod a person completely

My own mom told me I'm like Sheldon T_T''

I started dating at 19. I didn't like her, at all. All she wanted was sex.