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Jamesy
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28 Apr 2013, 3:09 pm

My dad stops me from doing things in life like having more freedom and independance. mum and brother don't mind what i do but my dad has a different view.

how can i make my dad change his attitude?



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28 Apr 2013, 4:05 pm

remind your dad you're an adult.



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28 Apr 2013, 4:28 pm

Why might he not view me as an adult?



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28 Apr 2013, 5:21 pm

Jamesy wrote:
Why might he not view me as an adult?


You are only 23; you've been a child for most of your life, and your dad is accustomed to parenting a child. Some parents tend to forget that their offspring are no longer children anymore, especially if those offspring have only recently become adults.


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28 Apr 2013, 8:40 pm

How exactly does your dad stop you from doing what you want to do?


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29 Apr 2013, 4:11 am

he stopped me from going too university 5 years ago



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29 Apr 2013, 4:41 am

Did you father not want you to go to university? Do you know the reason why he didn't want you to? That sounds really strange. Do you have some difficulty in any way? Maybe he was worried about some issues you might have and was being protective of you. But I think you will eventually have to be independent. So maybe you can bring it up to him and discuss it. Also you should get your mother and brother to help you in that.



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29 Apr 2013, 12:22 pm

I didn't really fancy university. but i think my dad thought i was not matur enough at the time



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29 Apr 2013, 12:42 pm

I would suggest showing them your maturity if you can, outright declaring it is usually viewed as immature. For instance in one of my cases, I was 18 and I wanted to travel to NYC for a convention, but they wouldn't let me go unless one of them could go with me. I agreed begrudgingly. As I do before I travel (or anything new, where applicable) I researched, made lists and schedules, made reservations, and printed off detailed maps. My mother didn't have to do anything, and despite teasing from colleagues about having my mother there, it worked out well and I didn't have any trouble with travel from that point on.


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