Have you ever been physically or sexually abused?

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Ariela
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22 Nov 2010, 12:59 am

I was physically abused by my first grade teacher. Another student picked a fight (an argument, no violence) with me and naturally I got the full blame. The teacher didn't even ask what was going on; she just dragged me by one arm and swept me across the classroom and dragged me all the way down the hall to the principal's office. This happened in a very affluent, reputable school district. She has since won many awards, has served on the board of many educational organizations and has relations with top officials on the US Department of Education as well as with those on the state level. She will probably win an award for excellence in education from Obama next year and there is nothing I can do about it.

I have been sexually abused twice. Once by a female (she was fifteen, I was nine), and once by a boy (he was fourteen, I was thirteen). I was afraid to tell my parents because they are very religious, so I kept it a secret for many years so neither of them will ever get punished.



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22 Nov 2010, 1:12 am

Freaking A-holes! I've been lucky. Neither has happened to me.



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22 Nov 2010, 1:14 am

Yes.



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22 Nov 2010, 1:16 am

To my knowledge there is no statute of limitations on child molestation in most states and there is quite a long statute that doesn't begin to count down until you are 18 for child abuse in most states. Check the statutes in the state where the abuse occurred before you assume you can't do anything about it. There usually IS something you can do about it. You can report it to the police or child services, no matter how old or young you are. If you tell a therapist or any teacher about it, they are mandated to report it as well, no matter how long ago it happened.


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22 Nov 2010, 1:27 am

both...and sexually abused quite a bit. It sucks to be female and autistic.

Ya I went to a reputable high school...seems like the more esteemed a school is, the more sh$t goes on unnoticed. There was a special ed teacher that was molesting the special ed students, and the special needs coordnator swept it under the rug...and the board attorney defended him and the court would not take the case. He was just transfered out.
A new superintendant came in and fired the special needs coordnator after he found out about it, so there was some justice, but not much.

I have been abused about every way possible...but if you wont go down, they cant take you down.


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22 Nov 2010, 2:00 am

I was sexually abused, along with my brothers, by my mother's fiance. I was about six or seven years old. We had been taught that if something bad happens to you, then it's God punishing you. So I didn't tell anyone for about a year and I just tried to ponder why 'God was punishing me'. Eventually I told. Nowadays I'm a firm atheist, luckily.



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22 Nov 2010, 2:14 am

yes.



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22 Nov 2010, 2:25 am

In seventh grade, the guidance recommended and the school forced me to go to a special education program in another town, where I learned absolutely nothing. They had a janitor who doubled as a gym teacher, though he certainly was not trained as such. He would snap at the girls butts whenever they bent down in gym class and he had stupid nicknames for all the girls.

In eighth grade, I was able to return to the mainstream, but I was placed in remedial level classes without even having been tested. There were two classroom Aids who would constantly hover over me. I was able to move up levels in Math and Science so I managed to evade them for those two classes but at the end of the year, one of the Aids announces he is following me to the high school and he did his best to get me placed in remedial classes. I was fortunate not to be in any classes with him but he came to my after school tutoring sessions and clubs, which my IEP mandated I go to so I could experience the full high school social scene (blah). Long after I had graduated high school, he was fired, presumably for stalking another girl and so he called my mom, asking for a letter to say what a great teacher he had been and in the event that he be turned down, he asked for a letter of recommendation for a new job!



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22 Nov 2010, 3:12 am

sounds creepy... I hope your mom told him where to get off at
My mom would have gotten his address from the return address and put some wup @ss on him.


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23 Nov 2010, 12:06 pm

Ariela wrote:
I was physically abused by my first grade teacher. Another student picked a fight (an argument, no violence) with me and naturally I got the full blame. The teacher didn't even ask what was going on; she just dragged me by one arm and swept me across the classroom and dragged me all the way down the hall to the principal's office. This happened in a very affluent, reputable school district. She has since won many awards, has served on the board of many educational organizations and has relations with top officials on the US Department of Education as well as with those on the state level. She will probably win an award for excellence in education from Obama next year and there is nothing I can do about it.

I have been sexually abused twice. Once by a female (she was fifteen, I was nine), and once by a boy (he was fourteen, I was thirteen). I was afraid to tell my parents because they are very religious, so I kept it a secret for many years so neither of them will ever get punished.


That is just awful. I was never physically nor sexually abused, but definitely verbally and emotionally abused. I had a past HR manager that was downright rude to me that it made me so depressed. This awful woman gets awards. It made me sick to my stomach to have a awful rude woman getting an award. It seems to me that the most rudest hateful people get more glory, attention and awards, while the good, honest hard working, friendly people are ignored.


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23 Nov 2010, 12:27 pm

Yes.



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23 Nov 2010, 2:15 pm

When I was in first or second grade, I was physically abused by a male student. He would trap me underneath a stairwell where the teachers couldn't see me. If I tried to escape, he would grab me and hit me. He left bruises all over me. I didn't tell anyone because I thought he really liked me and he was just playing a "game" with me. After my mom pressured me into telling her where I got the bruises, she told the school and made sure the teachers watched over me.

There was another boy who was very, very creepy, who tried to catch me whenever he could see that I was completely alone and pin me to the wall so he could kiss me. I knew better than to let him do that to me, so I managed to get away from him every time.

Both boys who did those things to me had mental disabilities, and that was a major reason why I put up with their harassment for as long as I did. I also never held them completely accountable for their actions.



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23 Nov 2010, 2:23 pm

Hopefully those boys are in a mental hospital.


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23 Nov 2010, 2:29 pm

And this subject directly relates to autism ... how? Perhaps the question in the root post of this thread might have been better posted under another major heading? Just a thought. - LJS


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23 Nov 2010, 2:34 pm

LongJohnSilver wrote:
And this subject directly relates to autism ... how? Perhaps the question in the root post of this thread might have been better posted under another major heading? Just a thought. - LJS


Due to their lack of social acumen, autistics have a predilection for attracting abusers.



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23 Nov 2010, 2:53 pm

I'd be surprised to find anyone makes it through a lifetime without being physically abused at some point.


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