it the NT world just a lot of people "acting" ?
I guess this must have come up before.
the primary problem aspies have in jobs is the inability to determine what other people want in terms of a persona from each other. i.e. If i was doing a blue collar job it would be the "alright mate" overtly open pro-social routine. If i was in an office job it would be more the "keep it to yourself" talk behind each others back routine.. Everybody has to be skilled at conforming to these persona routines or you are in trouble.. Every situation it appear has a set of social protocols where you are expected to pretend some type of interaction. Even in very basic stuff like buying groceries.
So the logical conclusion has to be that the working world consists of acting basically... How far does this really go. The children have to act as compliant and willing to behave. Adults have to pretend they dont have problems to not worry their parents. I mean a lot of the acting is for nice reasons, its not all games to get one over the other guy.
But at the end of the day if we cannot "keep our act together", the consequences are bad.
its still acting it it not ? so this is the real role of play in childhood that autism has problems with. play is really to learn how to become adept at pretending ?
Nts are highly fixated on posturing, it appears to be their main activity for atleast 50 percent of their time.
They blatantly admit it to. They'll say "you don't know how to act" etc.
They don't think they mean act literally but they in fact do. We don't act we simply be, it's a rather interesting difference that is pretty strong once you understand it.
The nt brain is so fixated on this posturing they so often confuse the posturing from the actual state.
They fixate on acting nice, instead of actually making any effort to being a good person, and would be more proud of saying nice things than of actually doing them.
Nts confuse people that act rich, from the people that actually have ability to keep money within the family.
Nts value someone who sounds smart over someone who has actual intelligence etc.
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Does the concept of honesty predate the forming of cliches within society. If I lived in the stone age and made a stone axe, it would belong to me. If another member of the tribe stole it from me I would expect to get it back. If the thief was stronger than me and of a higher social placing could I hope that honesty would prevail?
Does the concept of honesty predate the forming of cliches within society. If I lived in the stone age and made a stone axe, it would belong to me. If another member of the tribe stole it from me I would expect to get it back. If the thief was stronger than me and of a higher social placing could I hope that honesty would prevail?
it depends on context, no absolute answer, as you might be useful in other ways that would motivate others to promote honesty for your behalf. So honesty is really a motivational construct and not a rule of thumb. We know this from the scientific study of ingroup politics.. we also know primates have built in sensitivity to equitable distribution of resources. our empathy for others reflects our shared perception of these built in mechanisms.. but the resources are acquired through gaming which then contradicts or gets in the way of empathy. I mean this contradiction is why we built ethics and law systems in the first place. Its not like the NT world is not aware of these problems at the higher levels.
They blatantly admit it to. They'll say "you don't know how to act" etc.
They don't think they mean act literally but they in fact do. We don't act we simply be, it's a rather interesting difference that is pretty strong once you understand it.
The nt brain is so fixated on this posturing they so often confuse the posturing from the actual state.
They fixate on acting nice, instead of actually making any effort to being a good person, and would be more proud of saying nice things than of actually doing them.
Nts confuse people that act rich, from the people that actually have ability to keep money within the family.
Nts value someone who sounds smart over someone who has actual intelligence etc.
good point, although i dont want to start grouping all NT as them and us either. Its the general throng of ambivalent people creating these constructs, because they are either overstretched by everyday demands or do not care.
Lets not forget all these people who built our system of law and ethics and are still there who currently develop it (i.e. human rights for aspies and others now).
They blatantly admit it to. They'll say "you don't know how to act" etc.
I'd say "Work with an extensive set of social rules". To make things more complicated, those social rules change constantly based on such things as context, location, and social status. Social Status is usually the most important.
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They blatantly admit it to. They'll say "you don't know how to act" etc.
They don't think they mean act literally but they in fact do. We don't act we simply be, it's a rather interesting difference that is pretty strong once you understand it.
The nt brain is so fixated on this posturing they so often confuse the posturing from the actual state.
They fixate on acting nice, instead of actually making any effort to being a good person, and would be more proud of saying nice things than of actually doing them.
Nts confuse people that act rich, from the people that actually have ability to keep money within the family.
Nts value someone who sounds smart over someone who has actual intelligence etc.
Terrifically insightful!
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They are a different breed in many more ways too.
Quite emotional, they form intense bonds and often fallout afterwards, now hating each other. Oh wait... thats us too huh?
God bless their little projecting childlike fantasies...
Reality TV is making real people act more, like they are on TV
They blatantly admit it to. They'll say "you don't know how to act" etc.
I'd say "Work with an extensive set of social rules". To make things more complicated, those social rules change constantly based on such things as context, location, and social status. Social Status is usually the most important.
On a more pessimistic note, it's important to remember, when playing a part your body language must match the part. NTS have an ability to see through a poorly acted character. All that body language is directly for the purpose of playing that character. If one simply plays the cool guy routine with a group of nts without the proper body language one is dramatically failing.
The trick is to play a part that fits the Act( the conversation/setting) that is aspie appropriate.
From an NT point of view...
What you describe in your OP is social conditioning. It's meant to make the other people around you feel better or more at ease. It's meant to be thoughtful of others.
It isn't necessary to completely change oneself to fit in. Just trying to avoid acting the polar opposite than your surrounding is enough.
The trick is to play a part that fits the Act( the conversation/setting) that is aspie appropriate.
I would go further and say that body language and all the rest of non-verbal communication is actually more important than what you say, and I totally agree that leaving it out leads to dramatic failing.
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