Can you initiate things at all?

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I have never seemed to be able to initiate anything.
I don't initiate conversation
I don't initiate sex
I don't initiate friendships
I don't initiate interactions ( sometimes ill even go out of my way to not cross paths with someone)
On and on and on.

Can others here initiate things in life at all?

I am not shy and I don't have social anxiety. So yes I can.

I don't particularly have any desire to, however.

Yes, but it's never instinctive. I have to be prepared and set my mind to it.

Perhpaps you're doing it wrong. You don't initiate friendship, for example. It happens or it doesn't.

As a bearded philosopher said once: life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans.

I try, but much of the time it doesn't seem to work out.

I generally don't initiate things.

I initiate special interests like a force of nature. Social activities, almost never. There's a proper unity of opposites.

I have this problem too
its a real big problem for me

I just dont even know where to start

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I seem to initiate a defence response in other people.

I also lack initiative. Not just socially but also in more practical things, like actively hunt for a job for instance.

I am very socially passive. I think it's a defence mechanism to reduce the number of mistakes I make in this area.

I initiate nothing on a social level, I initiate many solo activities for myself.
Good thread

Thanks for the response everyone. I am asking because this seems to be affecting my life and marriage currently and I wanted to see if anyone has advice or something that has helped them learn how to initiate. I am not spontaneous and can never initiate intimacy, and my wife doesn't understand why.

Sorry, still got nothing on this one.

All I can say is that sounds just like me, do you discuss Aspergers with your partner?