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Assasta
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13 Jun 2013, 4:31 pm

Hi everyone,

Has anyone any advice for coping with impending change?

We have moved house five months ago and relocated. We are about to relocate again to another city. I am also looking for a new job when we've moved as well as starting a masters degree at the university... Oh, and hoping for new friends, too.

Basically a lot of change and a completely different routine.

I'm not dealing with it too well! The idea that the change hasn't even come yet...stressful. I don't want to slip back into old habits but I have spent the last three days not leaving the house or speaking to anyone basically in my own shell again.

How do you all deal with big changes in life?



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13 Jun 2013, 5:57 pm

This is something I struggle with as well... I'd love some insight from others as I have one change per month for the rest of the year.


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13 Jun 2013, 11:16 pm

Tell yourself "on Friday you WILL go to the park" or whatever your free day is. I have routines based on days of the week so I can give a bit of latitude if I miss one of my activities that week, however if I miss too many consecutive weeks it becomes a whole other routine or lack thereof, but the main thing being that if you can space things out in your head instead of a daily checklist, it helps with flexibility later on


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13 Jun 2013, 11:24 pm

2wheels4ever wrote:
Tell yourself "on Friday you WILL go to the park" or whatever your free day is. I have routines based on days of the week so I can give a bit of latitude if I miss one of my activities that week, however if I miss too many consecutive weeks it becomes a whole other routine or lack thereof, but the main thing being that if you can space things out in your head instead of a daily checklist, it helps with flexibility later on


I love that idea...of planning to do the things you can make happen,rather than dwelling on the things outside of your control. I'll try that, definitely!

I'm not quite sure I follow about spacing things out and that helping with flexibility, but it's late/early and my sleeping routine is completely broken right now!

The idea or fear or change is often worse than the change itself... But moving house,cities, friends, jobs and starting a post grad are all major things even for NT's... So I'm not beatings self up when I feel like retreating from the world right now

That said, I've gained 4lbs in a fortnight, haven't been out of the house for days and am currently sleeping only every other night... So I need to find a more normal way of dealing with this! Lol