I am rubbish at first impressions!

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I am not very good with first impressions. I made a big mistake at work the other day. There was a new person there (I won't use her real name, so I made up one), and one of my co-workers said, ''this is Mary'' (the new one must have already knew my name), so I smiled and said, ''hello, there'', and then she said, ''hello, I'm Mary, nice to meet you'', and then I knew I should say ''nice to meet you too'', but it kind of got lost on my tongue and I knew that if I said it I would get tongue-tied, so I said, ''oh.....hello, Mary.'' I then felt stupid and walked away. Then I passed her at work the other day and she looked at me but didn't say anything, even though I said, ''hello''. Now I feel bad in case my first impression went horribly wrong with her and now she thinks I'm weird before I've even got to know her at all.

God this is why I despise having AS, it makes you do stupid things and appear as stupid. It really sets off my social phobia really bad.

Oh yes. It has caused much problems for me in the past.

You'll get a second chance. As hard it may sound, try not to be bothered by it. Just keep greeting her. it's not you who's at fault if she doesn't respond to a friendly greeting.

It sounds like nothing went too wrong. It's your insecurity and anxiety that's telling you that you blew it.

to the OP- the people who go strictly on first impressions, are simply not worth your time and energy.

I actually count my own first impressions of people LESS than subsequent impressions, because I figure with first impressions people are on "best behavior" whereas they relax their guard a few meetings later, revealing who they truly are.