Why Am I Here?

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Beginning in November 2008, I began posting on here very frequently. It consumed a large part of my free time. It seemed there were so many interesting topics that I posted to. I took a couple or so breaks away from here. And about a month ago, I started posting here again. But I wonder why. I have to browse endlessly to find things to post to. I will just do "the count to a million" or "countdown" threads on the games section just to try to keep my post average from dipping below 4 a day. Why? That's silly. I believe I have grown bored with this site. Or something has happened. I noticed it after I began posting again last month. I had to search, search, and search just to find something to post to. I'm just not into it like I used to be. I have a lot of projects I need to work on like my writing---books for publication. That is what is interesting to me right now.

I'm just wondering how many of you have felt the same way as I have begun feeling last month? Would you care to share your thoughts on yourself if you have gone through this too? Thank you.

I tend to feel I'm a bit of a threadkiller most of the time. A lot of it is that I'm busy pursuing my daytime interests (and money is an interest that makes all other interests possible) and surfing WP and my other sites is more of a night-time routine for me, so my posts are usually long-buried by the time I remembered what threads I posted on. Other areas of WP don't seem to move much at all and when they do it's usually rather banal content bordering on something a NT would come up with. Other areas I don't post on because I'm not here to get into an internet war, and other areas I avoid because I was born too late, too soon, or with the wrong plumbing. There are enough posts in the areas I do frequent to cause me to sometimes feel I'm too 'out there' for anywhere

Yes, but not to where I'm ready to leave yet. I wonder if I'm staying for the wrong reasons, but not many threads pique my interest. There is a sense of community here, but it feels so transient sometimes. There seems to be a vacuum IRL, so I come here to try to fill it. Is it an exercise in futility? Maybe, but I can't give up yet.

There are about 10 people on here whos posts and blogs I like to read so I look for them and certin types of topics(mainly non-duplicate) I like to read. The amount of time I spend here and topics and subforms I read is directly related to how much I time I have in real life. Like meny WP is most of the pressure free social interaction I get and as daydreamer84 said it is part of my routine and those take 22 days for even NTs to break one I hear.

Sorry deleted my post instead of editing it: all I wanted to say was it's part of my routine to go on here and will probably continue to be.

I'm going through this phase too. I think when you initially join, you have so many questions and you almost get a special interest in WP and get a bit obsessive. Then as time goes on, you have read more and more that answers your questions about yourself, you feel more comfortable here so it loses its excitement. New members also join who are seeking answers so at that stage they have little in-depth stuff to write to keep you interested in hanging around as much. Familiarity also breeds contempt, as the saying goes. It sometimes runs a course and there is nothing much new to discover. So unless you are a person that enjoys constantly giving out advice to new members or getting into heated debates with older members about the latest piece of autism news/research, the appeal becomes less. I think coming to WP is part of finding yourself as an autistic person, and once you have settled in your mind who you are, the need for being on here all the time is much less intense. Out there IRL we struggle to feel accepted anywhere, on here, you find you can be, and that brings some level of inner peace because you know there is somewhere you can belong, and that in itself removes the need to seek affirmation of where it is you belong, as there is that little corner of your mind that you are aware that the place is here if you need it, sort of removes the intensity of the need to be here a lot.

Well that's my philosophical ramblings for the day.