tjr1243 wrote:
As an Aspie, I've noticed that when talking with some NTs.....they are a bit (selectively) cold and aloof.....for no apparent reason.
It is selective, as they are bubbly and friendly around other NTs but not around me for some reason.
This could be salesclerks or people i've known longer.
I don't get this aloofness at all around people who are also on the spectrum.
I am a friendly person. I don't demand that everyone has to be friendly all the time, so my question is more out of curiosity.
For example, if someone is friendly to me, no matter what their walk of life, I see no reason not to be friendly back.
I've mused over some possible explanations, such as:
A). Asperger Syndrome, which causes a deficit in social skills, causes the pleasure neurons not to light up in other people, thus they are genuinely aloof rather than overjoyed
B). NTs don't want to be
seen as being friendly around an Aspie, as it might demote their social status
C). Aspies SCARE NTs, thus their aloofness is a flight response
D). Some other inscrutable reason
Thoughts?

As somebody able to pass in the NT world I can vouch for very common characteristic called "social climbing" where people designate themselves a specific social status based on their "socio-demographic" class.
From experience, you just have to wear k-mart or Target clothes or not shave etc to have certain people ignore you completely. In addition if you look nervous or a little odd then it sends a signal to the average NT there is something awkward about you and they decide to selectively ignore you.
This selective snobbishness is so prevalent that I almost jump out of my skin when an NT is going out of their way to be nice to me. I put it down to some type of survival mechanism. I see it on this forum sometimes with conversation.
Socialise with popular and powerful people, ignore the weak, helpless and "strange" ones.
That's why I'm pretty sure I'm an alien, I just can't believe how primitive and superficial Homo Sapiens is.