Neurotypical society!

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In general society is designed for people not on the autistic spectrum...... in more depth what aspects of the way our society is designed causes problems for people with aspergers?

A lot of things happen due to social networking. I have never been particularly successful with this and I think my lack of ability has caused me to miss opportunities. So much is exchanged through chit chat and what I refer to as "social preening." This aspect of interaction is missing for me.

It's pretty much the misunderstanding between people diagnosed and not diagnosed. There is too much to explain about it. Since there are way more people that aren't diagnosed, you have to comply to their rules and understand them, not the other way around. It's like being a foreigner coming to a new country and not understanding their native tongue: you have to do more work to understand them than they do to understand you.

1. Speaking in the broadest sense, most jobs are designed around you having to interact with one or more persons, sometimes in a stressful and pressured fashion, every day. Some of it even involves you trying to convince people to buy your product. I'm sure most people on the spectrum would rather not be bothered with that.
2. Some, if not all, cities have an inordinate amount of noise - motorcycles, car horns, traffic, etc. Definitely not conducive to mental health.
3. I don't know what the percentage is, but a lot of folks on the spectrum don't like crowds, so shopping in the mall or a supermarket is definitely a no-no.
4. Again, I don't know the percentage, but some folks on the spectrum could care less about current fashions and often ignore places like Nordstrom's, American Apparel, Macy's, etc.
5. Parks, convention centers, movie theaters, etc can be nightmares for spectrumites because of the crowds, noise, amount of people and protocols often involved with those venues.

Our dilemma is that we're part of a species that is not only hypersocial, but is this way out of necessity. Being capable of close, voluntary cooperation is an important part of what separates people from other species. So, unlike some other groups that claim as much, aspies really do have to be twice as good. Our abilities are all we have to make favorable impressions on others.

For the most part, being socially adjusted means interacting in a way that makes other people responsible for your emotions. We don't do that very well.