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I found out I was an aspie about a year and a half ago.I thought knowone knew but my parents and grandma.I was not ready for anyone to know, i was still trying to figure it all out and except my new reality......turns out my mom told my aunt and a bunch of people at work because apparently she needed a support system because it was so hard on her having an autistic teen. I told her she had no right to reveal something that personal about me to people I did not even know and to people I did not want to know without getting my permission.She just told them and did not even tell me she had told other people.I just found out and I got so mad at her and she doesn't get what she did wrong....my question is do you think what she did,telling a bunch of people that I am austistic without my permission, was wrong?

woops screwed up the poll....well, just forget voting.

I thought I should add then when she told people I was 17.I was a teenager,still am,not a child.If I was say 11 this would be a totally different situation but that is not the case.I am old enough to decide on my own who should know about my condition and when they should know.I don't see how she needed a support system, me being autistic is not about her and Im not a kid. I have learned how to hanld my autism,it has not had a negative profound affect on the people around me for a long time,at least not to the point were they should need some kind of support system.

Last edited by Wivil on 03 Jun 2013, 1:03 am, edited 1 time in total.

I'm indifferent. When you're a child, you have less rights to your privacy so that means parents blab about their kids disabilities to other people. They either do it with pride or do it to reach out to other people for support.

I think it's wrong unless it is essential, for whatever reason, for these people to know.

So she told an aunt and a bunch of people of work.

So what?

How does that harm you?

Your mother would have been looking for her own personal support from her friends and family, to help her cope.

Weather you are Autistic or not, having a child is a dramatic thing for any woman. She is going to need support from friends and family.

I don't believe she did anything wrong. You might not understand it, but I'll bet she only has your best interest in mind. I'll also bet that she'd fight off wild buffellow with a broom to keep you safe.

I'm not sure. I don't think it was right of her to just tell a bunch of people without you knowing, but maybe she didn't know you'd be upset. I would talk to her and ask her that if next time she wants to tell someone, she could ask you if it's okay to tell this person or group of people.

I don't know if it is wrong, but I know I hated when my mother talked about me when I was a kid. When I heard her on the phone talking to her sisters about me, it didn't matter what she was saying, good or bad, I would yell "don't talk about me". She thought that was funny, so she would laugh and tell her sisters what I said.

In my opinion what she did was wrong. I can understand why you were upset about it. If I were you, I would be upset pretty badly, too. My privacy is very important. Once a piece of information leaks, you cannot "unleak" it. It's out and the consequences could be quite serious/devastating. You never know. So it's always safe to keep any information to yourself. After something like that happens, I would never be able to trust that person (in your case it's your mother). I cannot tolerate anyone who takes other people's privacy lightly.

She did it without my permission,it is a mojor violation of privacy.As far as it harming me....I suppose it dosn't but I trusted her to let me decide who to tell and when to tell them.

^whether or not it'll harm you depends on how they'll treat you having learned of your AS status. I don't want anyone to know so I would take that very hard. That's a big one for me.

You're 17, almost legally adult. She has no business revealing what you have to anyone, and especially not people who know you personally, people you have to deal with.