The ideal aspie...

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What characteristics do you think represents the ideal aspie?

Ideal in what way?

Assuming you are an aspie, what traits do you most value in yourself?...

Same as the ideal human really... imaginative, independent, free-thinking, compassionate, reliable, nurturing, physically fit, playful etc

One of the characteristics that impresses me with AS is the attention to detail that we as a group (almost) invariably possess...

My ideal aspie would have:
* Attention to detail...

Since we are on a spectrum, none of us would possess all the positive aspects associated with AS...
Is there something you would add to the ideal aspie list?

Here is another positive characteristic:
Objectivity...

As a group, I think it is quite common for aspies to have a greater desire to be in touch with reality, rather than service the needs of collective or mob thinking.
In essence, NTs are often more concerned with tribal harmony, even at the expense of factual accuracy...

I think the only reason that is the case is because we're forced to live in a world where collective thinking results in all too often consequences for us, and us alone. We would invariably deny that kind of thinking in order to prevent such an occurance again.

To put it simply, society has forced us to develop the means to think with an objectivity (ie the result of the damage of collective thinking) that society will never have. I don't think we have it by design, we develop it as a defense mechanism to society's rubbish.

I agree that NT societal "rubbish" forces us to think, from my experience, more objectively...

P.S.
Love the ears...

Indeed.

Thank you, they came with the face (the avatar is a reminder to myself to not let my emotions control me in any given situation, and instead to take a calm and passive approach. I believe it is working, likely due to being able to adopt the character).

Here is another one:
My ideal aspie would be Honest wherever it is practicable...

The implication here is that not every situation can be approached honestly...
It would be very naive to think so, imo...

In principle, my ideal aspie would refrain from deception wherever it is prudent...
(It is, after all, in his/her nature to be honest...)
Wherever appropriate, he would say nothing rather than lie...
If pressed, he might say he'd rather not answer...
If he were American, he might plead the 5th amendment...
If bullied, then all bets are off and he would show the deepest disrespect and manufacture a gold plated lie extraordinaire...

The triad of impairments are all limiting factors regarding fitting into collective thinking. I have to disagree with the last statement. Those with AS are inherently ill equipped to take part in group activities. Through time the feedback loop would enhance this effect but the key elements are what makes us both stand out and stand alone in the first place.

Aspies I know noticed have a lot of the human ideals such as compassion, ambition, creativity, and above all else kindness. The loneliest people are the kindest The saddest people smile the brightest. The most damaged people are the wisest.
But I have some more to add to it. Sometimes in life we find that we are not alone. We grab onto that person's hand and smile. Then no matter how impossible or sad things get. We hold on and pretend it's a plan.

Our issues as individuals with AS are not the only factors in being accepted in the eyes of society, society's acceptence depends entirely on whether or not society deems an individual worthy of attention and acception into the collective. Our problems from AS do contribute, but ultimately it's society's unwillingness to accept difference in other people that causes us to be separate from them. Blaming AS as being the sole problem in that is imo shortsighted, and only serves to make us think further that we're the ones that are broken while "society is just fine". The fact is, society is more broken than we are.

I agree. It is the opinions of individuals that form society, and I'm afraid that I do not believe it can or will be fixed. It only serves to be a problem because those with AS are victimized and then continue to see themselves as victims

Indeed, this is sometimes the case.

My ideal aspie would be self reliant...
He would develop tools/resources to increase personal independence...
After all, he is at the mercy of an alien world which often views him/her as something broken or threatening.

He would also not be inclined to lower his expectations...
He would refuse the principle of slotting into a position of the lowest common denominator to pacify an alien social system systemically oriented around hierarchical status.
My ideal aspie would not rebel against this social mechanism due to pride...
He would do so to protect the integrity of his individuality...



I think we can "blame" the evolutionary process for tribalistic social/community protectionism.
Presumably, in humanity's "genesis", there was a life and death struggle for the limited resources available...
Presumably this could have incorporated an "instinct" to eliminate the threat of, not only resource stealing by foreign tribal incursions, but internal elements that didn't directly contribute to the social harmony of that particular tribe.
This survival trait was then passed down through genetic material by the more successful aggression oriented tribes, as can be clearly seen in animal behaviour...
In essence, the nice guy/tribe finished last and was not as effective in the procreation race...

Personally, it seems the inmates have control of the asylum...
This seeming insanity is an unfortunate aspect of the nature of neurotypicalism and the consequences of the dominance of that particular life form in this life system...

Objective assessment of the situation for aspies:
Dominant life forms hostile.
Relocation to a less toxic planetary system advisable...