A few years ago I had an emotional crisis because of spending so much of my time in ways I didn't really care about. My Aspie self gets real scattered with too many interests and taking on projects without thinking through the steps necessary to complete them not to mention just totally wasting time because I'm so stressed by all the above. So I worked with a retired personnel director (cause I avoid
mental health professionals but that's another topic!! !) She helped me decide what to eliminate but more important gave me a mental habit of evaluating all my choices, so that I only take on the things most important to me. (Tho I still daydream about changing everything in my life all at once-don't know if that's an Aspie trait or just me-I hate routine, hate it.)
OK, now here's a really important part of this change-once I've made the decisions and eliminated the extraneous stuff from my daily activities, then I have found it real important mentally to have loose but fairly consistent time periods each day or week or whatever for the different activities. For example, I do some household chores after walking the dog, then when I'm done, I'M DONE and don't have any more thoughts about household chores, no lingering stress or worry about what still needs to be done. When it's time to relax, now I can really relax and goof off-on purpose!! ! This all sounds so simplistic, but I REALLY wasn't doing my life like this before-everything was just mushed together in my mind, nothing got finished, then I'd fritter away the hours because of stress and a need to escape. I had to quit doing quite a few things and still feel real busy, but fun busy, not stressed busy. Anyway, I highly recommend this evaluation and scheduling process if it would address your issue.