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kratos420
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17 Jun 2013, 1:48 am

So here's my problem, whilst I'm doing my special interest(videogames) my mind starts to drift, asking myself questions like 'why am i doing what I'm doing?' Or 'do i like / enjoy what I'm doing?'
And from there it's really hard to know where to go to.
Any insight, ideas, solutions?.



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17 Jun 2013, 1:50 am

Don't really know other than try to focus on the task at hand and try not to be too thrown or bothered by thinking of other things during it.



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17 Jun 2013, 1:54 am

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17 Jun 2013, 3:50 am

Maybe it´s time to dig up a new interest?


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17 Jun 2013, 9:45 am

kratos420 wrote:
So here's my problem, whilst I'm doing my special interest(videogames) my mind starts to drift,


Is it really your special interest then, or is it just an activity that has become a ritual?



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17 Jun 2013, 2:13 pm

This happens to me when I start downloading sims 3 game objects and spend night after night organising them with immaculate attention to detail and them but never actually using them.

I sort of feel better for having done it but I do wonder why I do it sometimes.

Sounds like it's become a ritual for you, and maybe for me too.


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17 Jun 2013, 3:19 pm

A few years ago I had an emotional crisis because of spending so much of my time in ways I didn't really care about. My Aspie self gets real scattered with too many interests and taking on projects without thinking through the steps necessary to complete them not to mention just totally wasting time because I'm so stressed by all the above. So I worked with a retired personnel director (cause I avoid :evil: mental health professionals but that's another topic!! !) She helped me decide what to eliminate but more important gave me a mental habit of evaluating all my choices, so that I only take on the things most important to me. (Tho I still daydream about changing everything in my life all at once-don't know if that's an Aspie trait or just me-I hate routine, hate it.)

OK, now here's a really important part of this change-once I've made the decisions and eliminated the extraneous stuff from my daily activities, then I have found it real important mentally to have loose but fairly consistent time periods each day or week or whatever for the different activities. For example, I do some household chores after walking the dog, then when I'm done, I'M DONE and don't have any more thoughts about household chores, no lingering stress or worry about what still needs to be done. When it's time to relax, now I can really relax and goof off-on purpose!! ! This all sounds so simplistic, but I REALLY wasn't doing my life like this before-everything was just mushed together in my mind, nothing got finished, then I'd fritter away the hours because of stress and a need to escape. I had to quit doing quite a few things and still feel real busy, but fun busy, not stressed busy. Anyway, I highly recommend this evaluation and scheduling process if it would address your issue.



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17 Jun 2013, 3:37 pm

kratos,
is that really the mind wandering,or is it internal narrating/monologue?
internal monologue is an inner voice that can discuss whatever the person is doing,for some people it might seem pretty rude and self deprecating but its their own thoughts that power it rather than another condition such as schizophrenia,which people regulary mix up with it as they assume theyre hearing external voices/people operating on their own free will.

its common in people on the spectrum because of the anxieties we all have that fuel issues,but speaking from own experience have never had internal narration/monologing,the closest have gotten to it is mental echolalia which is how speech is when am verbal.
NTs get it to.


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17 Jun 2013, 9:30 pm

kratos420 wrote:
So here's my problem, whilst I'm doing my special interest(videogames) my mind starts to drift, asking myself questions like 'why am i doing what I'm doing?' Or 'do i like / enjoy what I'm doing?'
And from there it's really hard to know where to go to.
Any insight, ideas, solutions?.


Then stop playing videogames and do something that will earn you stacks of cash instead.

What Im saying is that maybe the end has become more important than the means to you. So find an end, and then find a way to get to it.