I do not have any odd aspie mannerisms or an odd voice

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I find it strange that everyone says I look completely normal as far as mannerisms. I do not have any odd movements really and my voice is very normal with not really any flat tone. I do not have a monotone or even the robotic movements that some people have.

I guess everyone has Aspergers differently and they have some but not all of the symptoms? I started thinking maybe I do not have it or am I am extremely high functioning or I just learned how to behave more NT.

Anyone have any thoughts on this?

Another interesting thing is I played make believe with other kids when I was young and found it to be fun. This seems to be uncommon in many aspie kids. But again not every aspie has the exact same problems.

I don't have strange mannerisms as far as I know but I do speak in the 3rd person which drives people crazy.

Your probably just one of the highest functioning out there like myself. No idea when you were diagnosed but if my school didn't catch onto mine in elementary school I would have never been diagnosed.

Chances are you just outgrew your symptoms of shouldn't have to worry about it for the rest of your life.

Hardly everyone everyone is going to fit neatly inside a nicely wrapped box.

I have weird Aspie mannerisms, but not to the point where people recognize them. If I end up in the same room with another ASD person, people notice similarities pretty quickly.

I definitely have the traits of AS it is just that most people I know think I am pretty normal as far as how I appear. I mean I definitely think I am on the high end of the spectrum. I still have some difficulty in social situations and not understanding sarcasm or "joking around" at times. I can be too serious but I have started to loosen up more recently. And there are times when I love to laugh and like things that are humorous sometimes even sarcastic. Laughing feels great and I wish I could do it more.

Also I got diagnosed quite late at 15 or so. Before that I was diagnosed ADD. I think I definitely have some traits of ADD or even ADHD.

I also thought I had OCD but I think it is more akin to "fixations" and things have to be a certain way. It gets pretty strange like odd stimming behaviors but I have learned how to keep those under wraps in public.

Honestly the main problem now is having meltdowns. I can feel it coming and sometimes I can stop it and sometimes not. It is not so good because I have gotten into trouble. My interpersonal relations are not so good and it is affecting my ability to take rejection especially from women I have tried to date recently and in the past. This one woman basically said I was deranged and a lunatic. Which I am really not. I am really a nice genuine person. We only talked briefly so unfortunately I understand how she would think this since she barely knows me and my history. sigh. But I just need to get a system to keep myself from "overloading". Recently the neighbors called the police because I was screaming outside. I honestly need to find effective ways to let things out without screaming. I guess I could join a band and use that as a way to scream all I want and go nuts. lol.

Rambling I guess.

Same case here, I look normal and act normal. But very usual I was paralysed and my brain simply shut down.

Comments from my friends are: "you are ok, intelligent, you are just too nervous, etc."

But I know myself well, since I had visited two psychologist (the professional doctor, hope I don't say it wrong) before, both concluded that I have very mild asperger yet cannot be diagnosed.

I don't have odd movements or talk weird either. I have normal tone when talking, and I've even been told that I have facial expressions when I'm talking that match up to my thoughts and feelings. I've never had many issues in that area.

Also I played with toys and other children like a typical child, which is why I still wonder why I still didn't have many friends as a child. I remember playing imaginative games with other children for hours, as though we were all imagining the same thing as we played on. I enjoyed it too, and never got emotionally exhausted from it. I also played with toys typically, I didn't line up toys. I literally remember using lots of social interaction as I played with my toys, whether I was playing with another child or on my own. In fact, everything I played with as a child I always made interact with each other, whether it was My Little Ponies, or Barbies, or even my set of jungle animals I had. I had an NT cousin who always just spent the whole time brushing the Barbie's hair and dressing them up, and never wanted to make them socially interact. But I suppose all children are different, NT or not.

Also I don't get exhausted from socialising as an adult. If I am included and having a great laugh with people, I can socialise all day. It's just that it's rare that I am included in a group where I can speak up, which then makes me feel bored, so giving up being around people when I am ignored more than half of the time and enjoying my own entertainment helps me to climb back out of the boredom.

I know I had odd body movements as a kid, I have seen them in the videos and kids thought I was weird. My mother has pointed some out to me and would try and correct my posture, even as a kid my sitting posture would get corrected and how I stand. I also sound like I have an accent and I have sounded that way since I was six. people just think I am from another country or from the east so it's no biggie how I talk and people don't even notice. My voice does change when I talk and I don't speak in monotone, only sometimes.


I also did pretend play growing up. I would draw a town in the middle of the street and ride my bike around like it was a car, I played house, played with my Polly Pockets and Barbie dolls, I played with Brio train set, my brother's action figures and cars. I was talking to my husband about me doing pretend play and he told me it wasn't spontaneous because I was doing reenactments and acting out TV shows with my dolls, and I was never interested in games like playing pirates and other stuff with other kids. I preferred toys. When I did dress up, it was only wearing the costumes and then playing with toys. I remember playing the game of war one time with other kids at my house and we all had to hide and another group comes in the yard with guns and we all start shooting at each other and the last person alive wins and my mom was the referee. Then after that it was never fun because the game wasn't the same way so I never played it again. I also remember being in 4th grade and we were learning about The Oregon Trail and girls from my class decided to start playing Pioneers on the playground during recess so they always hung out on the walking trial in the field pretending it the The Oregon Trial and I found the game fun so I always hung out an watched them play. The water puddle next to the trail was the river or the pond and they were washing their hands in it pretending they were cleaning. Each day they would get further and further along the trail playing pretending they were traveling and they had gotten that far. It was one of the few moments where I was having fun with other kids doing pretend play using our imaginations. Lot of them weren't even my friends, they were just classmates.

I have actually seen myself on video and I think I look slightly odd but then again I am really looking for something. Plus I only see it if I ask someone else they say I look completely fine. It is strange to say the least. I think I was much worse when I was younger and sometimes I would say things in an odd way. Honestly I do not necessarily have odd mannerisms it is just that I move kind of fast and I seem a little physically awkward but it seems no one else notices it especially if they know me well. I have had more than a few friends and they seem to think I am just a normal person. Honestly most people just think I am a little awkward but not odd like I have social anxiety or just shy.

Honestly I think I am not used to seeing myself on video and I think people think they look weird on video or sound odd on a recording. This is normal for even NTs especially on voice recordings.

The thing I worry about is maybe to strangers I do look odd also I am worried that women get creeped out by it. I am attractive physically and people seem to wonder why I have not found a girlfriend yet. It is definitely frustrating not really knowing how some people perceive you. I kind of obsess on this a little. I wish I could worry less about what people may think because I am sure that is why I look awkward.

The last woman I tried to date recently it seemed that she was not bothered by my difference but once we met she seemed to lose interest which is probably something that just happens. She did not feel a connection she said. Since then I have been thinking constantly that it was something I did like maybe she thought I looked odd to her but I guess I will never know. She said the Aspergers was not a deciding factor in the rejection so I think I believe her. Interestingly enough I never told her until after but I am sure she saw my facebook page where I mentioned it. I would assume she looked at everything on my page since she was really really interested in me when we talked online and on the phone. She seemed so great and we had so much in common. It was a real bummer that she ended not feeling a connection.

I don't really have that many Aspie mannerisms either; it's definitely not immediately apparent that I have an ASD. I was also "worse" as a child (I did have people point out my voice was "weird" back then) but even at that point nobody thought of it as autism, just that I was a bit strange.

The things I do have that are apparent if you know what you are looking for are that

1. I have an odd gait/posture and still toe walk sometimes, especially when I have bare feet
2. I have some mild stims you might see me do in public, like twisting around, rocking, or doing other weird movements while humming/singing.

I also still have a huge problem making eye contact so I bet that makes me seem like a bit of a weirdo.

It's hard to tell with NTs whether they are trying to flatter you by telling you that you seem normal, whether you actually do seem normal to other people, or whether you are a bit odd but they are used to you or can't articulate your weirdness-es.

I dress in a quirky way, too. I am not sure how to describe my style. It is sort of a mix of a lot of different alternative styles. I usually stick out of a crowd due to my mode of dress-- I probably get perceived as odd more often due to that than for being autistic.

Like you, I also seem to make friends with people who are more accepting of difference or are different or neurodiverse themselves somehow (ADD, bipolar, etc.)

I think if you are looking for women to date you, you will probably have to find someone who is like your friends. NTs do pick up on people who seem different, for better or for worse, and you will probably have to find a lady who is ok with those differences or is weird herself.

Although it is hard for me too to know how I come across, I try not to obsess about it since I know that will make me feel really insecure. I've kind of just resigned myself to the fact that I will not get along with most people due to my differences and so I just need to find the gems out there who will accept me.

I guess sometimes it is more liberating to just outright say "I am odd and I have to deal with that" than to worry constantly whether you *are* odd or not and what that means for you.

I never thought I did until I was recorded myself for a music review on video. I really thought I had spoken with a lot of energy, inflection and facial movement. I just spoke in the same monotone, just louder sometimes. My big facial expressions were subtle weird changes with my face. I recorded myself at least 20 times. I could not put it up there as it was, so I edited the hell out of it and never did that again.

I have the clumsy, gauche body language and have been told I have weird facial expressions and gestures ect. but I don't have the flat affect and I don't have the monotone voice. My voice changes based on emotion and emphasis on certain words ect. and I'm fairly certain it always has. People have made occasional comments about me having a British accent so I think my voice does have an odd lilt to it.

I also have an awkward gait when walking (that people point out).

I go to an aspie support group and Ive never seen anyone with "an odd aspie voice".

I dont know what you mean by "aspie mannerisms". There are a number of aspies Ive met who are very high strung, and fidgety (not me). So that might be what you mean by "mannerisms". But not everyone has that.