Is it harder for us to " tell stories " ?

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Dop you think it's harder for us to " tell stories " - exaggerate about our own life , in telling stories ?
Are we more " tied down " to the strict truth .
I'm not so much referring to telling a complete story/fantasy , but inflating ~~~ exaggerating a true story .
I was(oK,it was in jail,as I mentioned) hearing other inmates there telling (what I think sorta/to an extent) "con's b*llsh*t" stories-Outrageous drug runs they'd done,whatever~And I thought that later.

I write fiction - short stories, novellas, etc, but I don't think that's what you mean, right?

I try not to lie. Sometimes, though, my hands get forced and I have no choice. I think I do it for survival.

No,I mean "fish stories". Thank you.

its harder for me to improvise stories where I am not in control of the narrative in one or more ways.

To give you an example:

During my diagnostic session, one of the practical excercises involved a picture book that had no text, just pictures. I was told to improvise and give each page a description of what was going on. I couldn't do it, I was in tears. I'm guessing thats probably what partly led to my positive diagnosis.

I do that very well.
I might bump into the shelf of the grocery store and a few cans are knocked down. When I tell the story the next day, most likely it will be the whole shelf collapsing and cans everywhere.

I am also quite proficient at telling the truth but having it sound like a joke or sarcasm, or just gross exagegation. I find that very helpful, because the I feel good about not lying to people about things I don't want them to know, and they think I'm just making up amusing stories.

I've been known to tell "fish stories" but I try not to. It might be the inner Narcissist in me or the fact that I place such a high value on how others see me. How others see me determines how I see myself so I have the motivation to lie, omit my errors in stories, and exaggerate things. I practice restraint because I don't feel good about it and I try to tell the exact truth but the motivation is always there. Now I try to accept that I'm not perfect and avoid pretending but a good "fish story" is tempting.

There is no avoiding storytelling. Our memories are unstable, liable to interpretative revision. That said, it does seem a commonality of AS to prefer non-fiction to fiction. Which is amusingly contradictory when you consider real life provides so much less pattern recognition (another AS commonality) than fantasy & fiction, which is often characterized by formulas. Maybe it is a preference for linear narrative with learning as the payoff that brings us to our peculiar place. We are the eternal students.

There is actually a thread somewhere here saying do Aspies exaggerate more than NTs?

Well? Do we or don't we? Or is it just another generalization thrown around here?

As far as "storytelling" goes, it's my passion - short stories, novels, screenplays, poems, etc.

But, when I tell stories (i.e. anecdotes), I usually have to either give the condensed version or the full version. The condensed is just a stripped-down, bare-essentials story. The full version consists of the tangents that people generally find interesting, but don't always have time for. I don't know if it's an Aspie tendency, but I have noticed a tendency among a few Aspies I know to keep following these tangets and lose sight of the story. Even though I may follow tangets, I always keep in mind the original story and somehow tie them together.

Actually, I do have a bad habit of embellishing the truth, which is why people who know me well tend to take my tales with a grain of salt. I don't do it on purpose - I think it's just a side effect of my having a flair for the dramatic.

fish stories as in stories about fish?
am not able to lie,am a realist and will tell things exactly as they are,and will never exagerate.
am acutely anti lie and am always the one people come to for truth if someone they know has been bullshting and em have heard them,but some of them are dikheads and assume because am labeled with a limited mental capacity am likely to tell lots of little fibs which is BS-we lack the concept understanding of lying,to self it is more offensive to be called a liar than any word because it is a deep part of neurology and its as if they are abusing them when am called a liar.
am unable to lie, physicaly speaking,it is like was born with a google safe mode switch which filters out all the lies [instead of crap nudy pictures] before putting it through to the concious part of mind.
am unable to watch anything to do with fiction as well because to self,it isnt real so what is the point? have got a huge interest in older disney cartoons but only because of the predictibility of constantly playing the same loops over and over and the sensory experience had got out of them,a fellow autist here [profoundly autistic] gets involved in the fictional side to and thinks mickey mouse etc is real.

have got huge issues with liars,in particular those who make up BS about themselves,such as different age, gender,
sexuality, disabilities even etc -no need for it,will try to be a friend to anyone to the best of ability,,am willing to accept-or had been willing to accept people regardless of what history in life they had,whether we be talking of going to prison,a mental hospital or having disabilities etc.
however thanks to this one ex user from here whom had been so badly bullied long term by due to being unable to communicate for help; and being sent into severe mental illness that am not yet recovered from,am unwilling to be as open as used to be.

When I retell events of my life they will always be bound to be colored by my perception of them and my emotional state of being, so in that regard it will be subjective.
But I don't tend to (or try to) tell "fish tales". If I exaggerate intentionally, it's for comical effect and I don't try to make it sound realistic, I try to make the person I'm talking to laugh. I think (hope) it's obvious that it's meant to be comical rather than factual when I do this.