Don't you hate it when people don't acknowledge!! !

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A lot of times I will tell my mom about my interests and she just says "hmm" and says nothing else!

It drives me through the roof!! !

Ive learnt not to talk to anyone about my interests if I know they do not share my interest.

I know for a fact that my interests are far too dull for conversation, even if they feel lively and vivid to me.

I get along by seeking out people who share my interest. There's a forum for almost anything on the net.

No, because I keep my interests to myself. Well I try to

Sorry, accidentally made a double-post.

I learned not to talk about my interests, unless they're relevant to the conversation in one way or another. For instance, when people are talking about American history, I can chime in with facts about trains and/or railroads, since they played a big role in the past. So in these cases, people do acknowledge what I said. But as dgd1788 pointed out, this was a big problem for me in the past.

It's not just the "Hmm" and effectively ignoring you, it's also the cutting into your sentence with some completely inane and unconnected comment that gets me. I have enough trouble being sociable and having a conversation with someone as it is, without them cutting me dead when they see a gap.

If I hear another person say "Sorry, I thought you'd finished" I might not be responsible for my actions

Yeah, this happened alot to me. However, now i have taught myself how to make them interested in what i have to say. If at any time i can't think of a way to get them interested, then i don't bother saying anything.

Most people do not like theory work, like some don't like to hear about football, I just keep to myself unless someone else is talking about it, never feels like they listening anyway seems like people have given that advice just nod and agree with them, I tested it out by insulting the person working it in and he agreed with me...

It's the same with anyone, regardless of ASD. People just dont like talking about the same thing over and over. I think people will assume you will only want to discuss that one thing and then shut off a bit. Do you want to talk about everyone else's interests?

My boyfriend doesn't really like listening to them, but sometimes he will when i tell him how important it is for me to talk about sometimes and brings me up from the slumps i am often in. When i am in a good mood though and he's not trying to bring me up, then no, he doesn't like to listen. He's nice about it though. He just says, "I know u like it, but honestly, i am just not interested." I like that he is honest and doesn't patronize me. I wouldn't like figuring out for myself that he is grating his teeth having to listen, i'd rather just be told straight out. Makes me respect him. i dk if that makes sense to anyone else, but it does to me.

However, my mom has always respected my interests, from pennies when i was little to keeping tropical fish now. She usually ends up taking on the interest herself. I asked her about this, and she said that she has always just wanted to understand her children and see what it is that gets us interested in life. She always listens, then ends up finding it fascinating and wanting to try for herself by doing it with me. I love my mom I didn't realize how important this was to me until i got to college.