Interesting observation about WP

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I am used to standing out in the group, being the odd one out, etc... but over here nobody even seems to notice me! I actually find this to be refreshing. People have accused me of trying to get attention, but here I am not getting attention, and for once in my life I feel normal.

Perhaps it is not that we are seeking attention but that we appear to be seeking attention due to our "odd" behaviors. I do not feel the desire to make myself stand out on WP, just like I don't feel the desire to make myself stand out anywhere else.

I simply stand out everywhere but here.

Anyone else experience this?

You talking about "standing-out" IRL or other internet forums? Also worth mentioning that you haven't posted on WP a whole lot even though you obviously joined quite awhile ago.

Both.

I think you misunderstood me. Not standing out is a good thing. I don't want to be noticed anymore.

Does it appear that I am somehow seeking validation and trying to get noticed through this thread?

This was not my intent. I just wanted to have a discussion on standing out on WP vs. standing out in other places. My theory is that it is nearly impossible to stand out on WP, due to the large number of people who stand out here.

Last edited by TheHaywire on 03 Aug 2013, 2:30 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I took you as meaning what you said, that you don't stand out here, unlike in real life, and you like the feeling.

From a different line of logic maybe that's the same as fitting in

I'm not sure if I was unconsciously seeking validation or if Venger just read me wrong. Thank you for reading me literally, Sethno.

Someone thinking I am seeking validation via some hidden motivation upsets me. I do not know how to use hidden methods. I am not a neurotypical.

I think that's a really nice observation you make. Thank you

It's not really the attention that I mind it's what the attention leads to. I don't stand out in public but you still get people who at least feign interest in strangers and I dread these conversations. These people are just trying to be friendly and I wish there was a way to indicate that I appreciate the thought but I'd really prefer not to talk. I don't like wearing headphones everywhere but it's often how I deal with it.

You mean because you didn't stand out until you started a thread about not standing out?



I think there are characters on WP who occasionally stand out (though that's not always necessarily a good thing). Some stand out because they're so childishly obnoxious, or tiresomely whiny, others because of their long-winded and/or opinionated posts. Not to name names or anything. We know who we are.

Some people stand out for their consistently enlightening and helpful insights. Some because they have eye-catching avatars.

Its all good. We all belong to the same family. Much love to all.




I suppose a lot of my Autistic behaviors stand out in the world, but there's not really anything I can do about that. Sometimes I feel very self-conscious about it, but I try not to dwell on it most of the time. I Yam What I Yam.

I don't think in social settings anybody thinks I'm intentionally attention-seeking, because I usually fade into the wallpaper, until such time as a convenient exit presents itself.

When I was a small child, I did act out in silly ways to get attention, because I didn't know any other way to socially interact with others, so I used broad, slapstick comedy stunts as a substitute. As I got older and realized that while it got attention from the group, it didn't necessarily help me make connections with other individuals, I became humiliated by the attention and stopped even trying to interact and became very socially withdrawn, which continues to this day.

I also like not getting attention. But most of the time I don't know if people notice me or not in real life or on WP.

I noticed you because I find your avatar very beautiful, and I like your sn. Your posts don't come across as attention seeking at all.

I'm long winded, in speech sometimes as well as in written form. Sorry, I will try to keep things shorter!

Nothing wrong in it. I think it happens to people because it's a forum and they can just write and write and nobody can tell them to stop

Thanks, I got a little insecure. I express myself really well in written form so it gets long sometimes! I can do that in speech too but better written.

I feel better now, thanks again!

What the OP said is very true. I feel the same.

There she is! >>> OMG!