Why so serious?

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I've noticed a lot of people on here take things really seriously and get really bent out of shape and offended very easily. I like to joke around, poke a little fun, or make crude jokes and sometimes I get some really hateful responses.

Anyone else get that vibe around these boards?

Usually just on L&D or the politics board. There has been a guy on here talking s**t about contemporary music tastes though

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I don't know what you're talking about but it makes me angry.

Wolfmen are too oblivious to be PC.

This is a forum for autistic people. I wouldn't be surprised to find many "serious" people here. Not all people like crude jokes. You can't blame some people that get offended by jokes that they don't like. Some people may be particularly sensitive about certain topics. Having said that, I personally haven't been offended by you (OP).

I'm not really a joking type. I don't necessarily easily offended by jokes but I do feel very uncomfortable with certain kinds of jokes IRL. I even avoid going into the room at work where people are often joking.

I usually use jokes because I grew up being teased by my little brother& and bunch of his friends who always joke around ...This is why I am not so serious..sorry for the wrong answer.

Sigh, ok, here's a serious answer. A lot of the people on this board have been bullied in the past, or even being bullied now. Bullying can give one PTSD type symptoms, in fact PTSD is a common co-morbid diagnosis with autism. The thing about PTSD is that it has triggers, certain things will set off a person with PTSD-- it activates their fight or flight responses.

Having read a few of your posts I don't think it's necessarily anything personal you've said, but perhaps the presentation. You seem like a normal early 20's male, and there's nothing wrong with that at all, but at the same time that could be the same age and personality type that bullied some of people here and gave them PTSD. Therefore, you're triggering that PTSD response. If that is indeed the case it's not your fault, nor is it theirs, it's just a fact of life in a f****d up world. If that doesn't resonate with you try this: If you almost had your leg chewed off by a large dog you'd probably be pretty wary of any large dogs in the future, regardless of the actual personality of the dog.

All that being said, some people are just crabby and that may be what you're running into. Best just to ignore those types and move on, realize they're in a bad place and you're just a sounding board for their problems-- autism doesn't stop one from being an a**hole and it certainly doesn't prevent one from having a bad day.

I too am a jokey type.

But I still have my scars (get it?)

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Maybe they didn't realise it was a joke. It can be very difficult to tell what a post actually means rather that what is typed.

Apparently, according to any number of books and articles that I've read, a fair proportion of people on the autistic spectrum have difficulty understanding jokes and humor, I know that I do, I tend to take things literally.

Stop with the autism symptoms already guys! Can't you see that Crazyfool wants to joke around?!?
(joking obv)

Just apologize and good. I see no use in discussing this.

I'm not serious---I'm delirious!

I should have taken the Crazyfool monikor! I just am not as Kraftie as I thought I was

Many HFAs aren't much inclined to small talk, superficial chit chat and trivialities, they prefer the big topics and serious consideration of them. It goes with the territory. I am one of them, for the most part.

Also, I second a previous poster's perception that a lot of members have experienced serious and sustained bullying (and discounting) earlier in their lives, consistently treated as 'worth less' in their opinions and being, so there is a lot of unhealed PTSD from that, and thoughtless comments from others can reactivate that old pain and bring a flooding of painful memories. So they react, to try to protect themselves from even more damage, here.

They came here, as I did, seeking sanctuary place to be understood and safe. Unfortunately that cannot be guaranteed and is not always the reality. It is extremely painful to me to watch people on the spectrum attack other people on the spectrum. But that's human nature and individual difference, and it will always be a factor here.

I joke around a lot, sometimes when it's not appropriate. I think that this is basically in self-defense. Also, I'm definitely one of the smarta** Aspies.