How can I reject female company in particular circumstance?

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I was in the pub last night. I was pretty much all the way in the bag. Two women (one of whom I know vaguely from somewhere else) wanted me to come drinking with them further - I think that was the intention. I ignored them even though they were pointed out to me, I didn't spot them because I was pissed. Even if they had have asked me, I would have rejected them anyway - the main reason being that they're nice ladies, but they're emphatically not their kind of company and I am almost certain I would be bad company when sober and a nightmare when drunk (just obsessive and boring). When I go to the pub I sit on my own usually anyway.

I'm probably seeing her again. If she asks to go out on a drink with me and her friends, how can I turn her down without a) outing myself as a freak or b) upsetting her? I want the rejection to be as positive as possible. I am almost certain that I would be a nuisance - I struggle as it is talking to her in the shop! (I'm not really attracted to her and we have little in common.) Put lots of beer in the mix and... no. Just no.

So how do I deal with this situation in the future? Part of it is that when I drink, I am trying to do my best not to make myself a nuisance. It's not massively successful but I try to keep 'spillages' to a minimum (I stare a bit too much, and I'm nearly mute). I do have a very few people that like me, but this is against all odds.

So what do I do?

Talk politics with her. That'll do it. Especially what you're into

You should just tell her how you feel, women usually prefer people being honest to them, especially if it can prevent them from putting a lot of effort into something that won't go anywhere.

I don't know if it's that you don't wan't to hang with her at all, or if the problem is that you feel like she is interested in a romantic way - and you don't wan't to go there.

If it's the second, you should def. tell her, but of course in a polite manner. Have a talk to her under four eyes (just the two of you) and for example. ask her how she looks at your "friendship", then after you can continue and tell her that you don't think of her in a romantic way. She'd probably feel bad at first, but later she'll most likely realize how good it is to know that she's not spending any more time on something that will never be. Plus you get her "off your back"

I can't tell for sure what's the best thing to do in the situation, since no ones alike, and therefore also reacts to/does things in different ways.
Follow your "gut feeling", and just do what you think will be the best way to solve the issue.

I'm not sure why you want to turn her down. You may have more in common than you think, but you won't know that if you don't give it a try. A date is not a marriage - give it a shot and if your suspicions are correct than don't see her again. But sometimes it takes a bit of time and getting to know each other to see if there is any chance of compatibility.

Three simple words will do the trick: "I am gay."

Even better: "I have no money".

She's likely looking for someone else to pay for her drinks.

How about telling them you are "interested" in somebody else?

Ha Ha. That will do the trick with most (not all) NT's.

I have had women whose first words to me were buy me a drink.

But seriously I agree with Ann. Also bartenders are a good source of info about people. Having a female ask me for drinks does not happen to often and it does freak me out and paralyzed me. Rejection on the first date seems like a huge deal when you don’t get first date often but it isn’t.

How about you go and ask her out?

Ive had a 100% success rate with this tactic for driving Women away.

lol

introduce her to all these guys on here who can't get a woman to talk to them?

win-win

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Just tell her you have plans or suggest something that doesn't involve drinking or much talking (movie, theater, etc.). I wouldn't be too open about your situation. People appreciate honesty but not that much honesty (at least from my experience).

I wish I could learn this, but for a high school girl...

Lectures on irrevent information and video games seems to work.

Tell her you want to bring her to The Lord,and that you want at least a dozen children, to make you a sandwich NOW,and her outfit makes her look fat.

This is how it's done ...

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kYOLBH0R0yM[/youtube]Sheer genius.