Why do NT's not get excited like us?

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Outside of my 14yr. old sisters teen behavior excitement over One Direction (the band or there documentary movie) OR my older sister Erica (30's BTW) OMG! They have her wine on sale Buy One Get one FREE! Gets clapping excited like I do. Outside of those times. I get WAY MORE EXCITED WAY MORE TIMES!

New show episode!

New video game!

Some game is on sale.

Yet I'm looked at oddly by the 14yr. old as if it's not adult or grown up to be excited. Erica the oldest never shows excitement. To me BOGO wine doesn't equal clapping excitement.

Why do WE get more excited over things than them?

Because they don't enjoy life.

Yes at times they don't seem to enjoy life. Going through the motions even Disney World is just another trip to Disney or Christmas morning is just a smile and "open your gifts" at 5AM. When you're a child people expect giddy excitement but we for some reason don't grow out of it. But giddy excitement isn't going to get you a job! You have to be mature and act like an adult. Are you going to be a giddy little child the rest of your life? You sometimes feel you need to grow up. Other times not. I struggle between these two sides of myself a lot. If growing up is not enjoying life than no thinks but I want to be a productive member of society and jumping around like a kid isn't it.

I don't think this has anything to do with being autistic or not. Some people feel the same way, but just don't externally express it. Some people just plain don't get excited over much of anything if anything at all. I think this has more to do with personality than anything. I am aspergers, as well as my children; I am around a lot of ASD kids at my work and what I see more often is the opposite of what you are saying. Most asd seem aloof to most things and most of our outward expression occurs when we are upset--hand flapping, dropping to the ground, stimming, etc.

My personality slightly mirrors bipolar in that I either don't care at all or care too much- on or off- and it could be either at any given moment.

Maybe my experiences are actually less common; I'm sure some others will chime in.

Certain things excite certain people.

For me, I get excited over the novelty more than anything. But I do tend to get overexcited about my special interests. Maybe NTs know to not show excitement at certain times? That was just a guess.

Now when I'm hypomanic, every little thing excites me. Even things that would previously annoy me.

I find normal people get far more excited than I do.

Because they don't have the child-like innocence. This is because being aware of the hierarchies, the politics, the hidden agendas, the hidden motivations of humans, and having to act accordingly, robs people of that innocence. NTs too pay a price. They do a lot better socially and at anything that involves having to be persuasive of others, but they enjoy the little things of life a lot less than children and autistics. I see it even in myself, the loss of spontaneous enjoyment as I grow more and more socially aware. And the child-like innocence is something others have always envied in me (some to the extent of trying to ruin it for me).

People with ADHD get over exited too.

NTs do get excited to the same degree as us AS people, but they do it in different contexts.

How many AS people, for example, would feel at home, carried away and swept up in the emotions of a crowd of football spectators, for example?

Probably none, I'd guess, and yet for NT people experiences such as these are overwhelming, all-absorbing and emotionally-immersive.

Growing up and being sensible is over-rated If I want to jump up and down and clap and squeak because I've seen something purple then I will and I don't care if people think I look daft! Having said that I find I get over-excited about really minor stuff and then not at all excited about the bigger stuff that other people get excited about so maybe I'm just a bit wrong way round (there's a surprise!) Maybe it's an emotion thing. I'm terrible at knowing how I feel or showing how I feel about big things so it's easier and safer to get all bouncy and happy about small stuff because it's easy to process and doesn't really mean anything. Not explaining myself very well.....

What if I told that most of the times other people get more excited then I do? I'm not part of your "us" I guess?

I've seen it from both angles. I know it's easy to scorn NT's for not seeing the joy and excitement we get from stimming, but as an aspie myself. I've been around LFA's and I do find there stimming acts to be annoying to me as well. I know its easy to think that NT's are just simply being a$$holes for not excepting are stimming behavior. but try to see it from there perspective. I too am a hard core stimmer and I would go absolutely go nuts if I couldn't do it. But I've learn to manage it by going to a private space(restroom, closet or another unoccupied room) to vent or use so called socially acceptable methods of venting which may not be as efficient as stimming in a private room.

I don't get excited by a lot of things. It seems to me that NTs around me get excited over things that, in my opinion, don't really matter.

I get excited by things that most people don't care about and they get excited by things I donn't care about.

Fashion? Team sports? Celebrities? I understand that these are interesting to others.

Cyclogenesis, Galaxy formation, Gene transcription and mosaicism--most people's eyes glaze over and I become animated and enthusiastic.

There it is.