attempted empathy?

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Me and my husband were talking to a mental health professional. She identified a problem of mine. She said I put my brain in my husband's brain. Meaning I think he is reacting and thinking about a situation exactly like I would. Attempted empathy?

I'm wondering if this could build my case for being aspie or if I'm over thinking this.

I would call that 'Projection, due to a lack of Empathic ability'. It's the classic autistic 'Theory Of Mind' conundrum. We're not very adept at reading nonverbal signals to surmise what others are thinking or feeling, so we tend to assume they're all thinking the same things we are.

But they're usually not.

I may not even have Asperger's (that's why Im here, lol) but I do have OCD and I find that if I'm in a bad mood, I assume my boyfriend is in a bad mood too, and it can be problematic for us because I'll keep asking him if he's OK, again and again, and he starts to get mad. Self fulfilling prophecy. I am capable of empathy though, so I may be a bad example--but it's not as easy for me as it is for a lot of other people.

I also have a hard time when I'm in a great mood, and a friend calls me with problems, or if she's upset. Sometimes, I even get mad! But again, not sure if that's relevant....

The mound ahead stands up;

My horse cowers nearby.