What types of socialization do you enjoy?

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I know most people with ASD don't like small talk (such as weather). I find it boring too and see no point in discussing things I already know.
I do enjoy socializing about different things though. These are a few things I do like to socialize with people about.

-Exchanging information.
-Telling and listening to stories.
-Jokes.
-Creating productive plans.

I like communicating for the purposes of learning, productivity and entertainment.

I love problem solving with others. For example, a murder mystery dinner is SO much fun! I also enjoy solving problems at work. Others at work seem to dread meetings, but they are my favorite, because we can get together, share ideas, and get some real productive problem solving done. Luckily the meetings in my unit actually do accomplish this (I have worked places where we had meetings every day where nothing at all actually happened).

I also liked working with users of a library/archives (my chosen profession). They come in with a problem to solve or an information need to be filled, and I provide them with expertise and guidance. It is very rewarding.

I also like to have discussions with people that are more structured, such as in a classroom where the teacher has given us a topic or list of questions to discuss.

I also love to talk about television! I watch a lot of TV. Unfortunately most around me don't watch much TV at all, so I can't really talk to them about it.

I feel kind of selfish, but I only enjoying talking about things that I find particularly interesting...I'm sure this isn't too uncommon, but I genuinely can't stand talking about anything else. I agree that unless I see personal gain in the conversation, I find it impossible to put any effort into. I'm an atrocious listener .

No matter who I am speaking with, I'll do great at the beginning, then after a time I can't look them in the eye and I get more Aspie-ish, and then I hit a wall and it's "I have to go now,"

I'm always looking for a 'full-stop' in a conversation, because I just don't enjoy talking to people much unless I really relate to them, which happens about 0.01% of the time. I'm not rude though, I just like to wind conversation down gently and move on to other stuff.

I'll talk with anyone about just about anything, assuming they have something intelligent and interesting to say about it.

The deep and meaningful kind. I love discussing ideas, concepts and personal matters. Subjects such as philosophy, science and media are always good to discuss -- so long as they remain civil, of course. I revel in conversations which I feel can have a deep impact upon the world, society or even just an individual person. What I can't stand is small talk. It feels so vapid and scripted. I have difficulty connecting with people and engaging in various conversations because of that.

I'm the stereotyped aspie who just can't relate to my age group. It seems like I just have nothing to say to people and just spend all my time alone. In any case, if I did get together with people, I'd more than likely say the wrong things and find I'm being censored and critiqued for it.

Playing board games
making music
eating meals
bitching about work

This is somewhat like me. I tire quickly and have to retreat fairly often. At work I slip into the back office every few sessions (or after a particularly tiring one) for a few minutes and a bit of tea or coffee.

However, I like all types of socializing that aren't competitive.

I like to hang out with inelegant people who like to talk about things like science and philosophy. Sadly though, they are far and few. The things I can't stand to talk about and bore the sh!t out me is small talk, politics and religion. Talking about politics and religion are two of the most unproductive subjects you can talk about. It's like a cat chasing it's own tail. You keep going in circles forever and there is never a resolve.

I love the idea of socializing, but in reality it exhausts me ridiculously. I started my department going out to lunch once a month and I keep adding people to the group. I don't know - I enjoy it in that I don't hate it, but I am so much happier on my own. I don't understand why I am like this, I know it's weird and I know to some extent even my "office friends," think it's really off. But I don't get people. I used to constantly agonize and think I had to have friends, but the more I let go of that idea the happier I am.

I can't for the life of me understand why one lunch once a month is so difficult for me and make me so happy to escape, but there you go.

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Playing boardgames
Debating something for the fun of it
Deep conversations where I'm learning something new and interesting

I like hanging out with a friend or friends who I don't have to talk to constantly. Somebody who I'm comfortable just sitting in the same room or house with and doing our own thing or talking when we feel like it. My best friend and I used to have this down to a science back before she got rid of her FB. She would come over and sit on the couch with her phone on FB and I'd be sitting about six feet away in my computer chair at the desktop on FB and we would message each other and comment on each other's stuff and never say a word really. It drove my husband crazy because we would do that for hours. It was very quiet with lots of typing then laughter. Then more quiet, them more laughter and typing, etc. He thought it was weird but I really enjoyed it.

I tend to like socializing while doing an activity, so the socialization is secondary, humor or discussions about scientific or philosophical type stuff. It's very rare. though, that I enjoy a conversation (or that I can maintain a decent one) past a few minutes.