Boring conversations

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I would like to ask this of people with children specifically. Do you enjoy hearing about other people's kids and all of their activities and college plans, etc? I can't stand it but I am not sure if this is because I have no kids of my own or if it's an aspie thing. When the women at work start talking about their families and their career plans, holiday plans, etc, I literally want to gouge my eyes out!

ive found it most common that it takes having your own to care hearing all about others kids. then again, i have one and i could care less what my coworkers kids are up to.

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one exception, one guy i work closely with has an autistic child and him i like hearing about. mainly because dad is a real piece of sh** and it does me good to hear kid is ok.

Imweird, I could've written your post, word by word. It drives me bonkers at lunch time with the colleagues. Even thinking about having my own kids and helping them with school work, etc. sounds terribly boring to me.

I don't think that this is an exclusively AS reaction -- most NT are bored silly by it too.

I like hearing about people's kids to an extent, but sometime they just go on and on and on with stuff that nobody could care about. I have to say though, I know a woman who asks people about their families and memorizes all the names and events, then when she bumps into someone she asks something like, "how was your grandson's botany project in the fair last week?" Needless to say, people adore her.

I think most of the conversation of NT women is really boring

if someone outside of blood-kin asked by name how my kids last week homework went id get incredibly suspicious and make a point of this person learning practically nothing about her from then on. imho thats too detailed a question to fall under polite conversational curiousity.
i'm not the paranoid type, i simply trust no one.

Exactly why I was always grateful that my job allowed me to work in a closed room, away from the babble and chatter. I got more work done in a few hours than those idiots did all day, because they wasted so much time prattling about T-ball and soccer and what cutesy remark junior made to the Sunday School teacher and the birthday party at Chucky Cheese and what's on sale this week at Kohls that their daughter wants for school....blah...blah...blah...

I could not understand why anyone paid these people a full time salary to spend 50% of their time filling the air with jabber and accomplishing nothing, but if I finished all my work for the next two weeks ahead and left early, I got fired.

I think it could be off-putting if they're overprotective or some kind of tiger mom, because I'd be afraid of getting on their bad side. However, I like children so I'm not usually troubled by hearing about them. My favorite sections of an introductory psychology course involved children, though I did wind up crying in the back of class during a talk about parent-child grief when the instructor shared some of her experiences as a counselor.

I think if you're not a mother looking to connect with other mothers and aren't very keen on children in the first place, it's understandably not a good subject. Some people are very focused on the children, so that's what they talk about.

Thanks for the replies! I think I just have very antisocial qualities. And I bet that if I did have kids of my own, I wouldn't bombard others with all the details of their activities because I think I myself would be bored with being a soccer mom. When I visited my cousin when her kids were small and got dragged to one of their basketball games, I just wanted to be anywhere else.

Willard...everything you said! Nobody does any work in my department. They just go office to office visiting each other all day. I'm not well liked because I don't kiss up and don't gossip all day. Even if I had the time to do it, I have no interest in it. They all bore me to tears.

I don't mind when people talk about their kids, especially if I know them well, and it's more interesting if the kids they are talking about are little, for some reason. And I would rather see pictures of people's kids or pets posted on Youtube, than of a pile of youngsters tarted up in a bar.

I do get bored when people keep saying ''my mother-in-law, my sister-in-law....'' or whatever. I can't always keep up. It's probably more interesting if I know them more, I suppose.