In school or outside were u picked on more by boys or girls?

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or do you find that it has been pretty much 50 50

Girls. In fact, still to this day, females are the worst.

The Lab Pet tends to have a rapport with men. From my experience, neurotypical girls/women are inclined to manipulative back-stabling behaviour, including gossip and covert bullying. Females have the capacity to be socially crafty. Because I've been hurt so badly, whenever I meet a female, I am privately leery - I know what they can do.

definitely boys.

Boys, but I dont know if that counts for statistic I have been in engineer school, so there hardly were any girls. XD

To be maybe be more precise about it, it was an border school, and they boys that felt themselve most disturbed by me and mine behavior were mostly from very rural parts of the country and small villages. So they had more of that "But girls should behave like this and that, and because of you not being that way and alienating me, I decide to dislike and bully you." Around bigger cities and common areas, only one boy had a problem with me being the way I was. But he was in general much of a douchebag.

Everybody picked on me.

I learned to pick back.

Boys.
I was taunted horribly in gym classes, etc. Nearly killed by a peer at a bus shelter (some of the football team guys actually came and saved my ass - probably because they already hated the guy who was trashing me - I will always be greatful to those fellows).

For the majority of late elementary (i dont remember much prior to grade 4) all the way through to grade 10 I was frequently bullied.

Finally in grade ten, Mr. Stanley's science class (read: The Monotone Man and the Lectures No-one Listened to) I was targetted repeatedly (and the teacher ignored repeatedly) by minor irritants (theft of pen, spitballs, etc).

And I snapped. I decided that if the authority figure was going to do nothing about the problem I would.

The first time I grabbed my pen back it somehow led to a physical fight - which I lost, severely. Though I bled all over the jerk's favourite baseball cap.
The second time, I waited till end of class, whipped a spitball back at the dweeb who'd been chucking them all class, and headed for the hallway. He grabbed my backpack - I didn't turn around but warned him to let go... repeatedly... then got fed up and REALLY snapped - we fought up and down the hallway for a while before an english teacher across the hall broke it up. I never got any serious abuse after that one (nor did I get in trouble - though the other fellow got 3 days suspension).

I think that was my last fight, ever, and the last time anyone seriously singled me out for abuse.

Probably 50/50 for me.

I know that tons of highly morale persons wont agree with me, but actually I must agree to mentioned experiences, that if you get physically bullied, to fight back.

I ignored all kind of verbal and physical bullying, but if you bullied me physically, I punshed back. When I came in a new school with new classmates, that normally happened 1-2 times, and then people were done with it, and did not bully me physically anymore.

I can only recommend parents of aspie kids to sent them in some sport, that learn them responsible self-defense. On one side they get to train physical abilities, that most of us lack anyway, so nothing bad about traning that, and as well that as Aspergers many of us simply lack knowledge of social situation, in combination with naivity and being "a bit behind the peer" when it comes to the maturing. That simply makes as easy victims for all kind of people. So I dont like being fooled of, or to be part of an joke that I dont get, but at least when I actually get physically treated, so that its obvious that someone wants to do me a bad or is a bad person, I fight back without hesitation. I think it important, to teach a child the confidence to do so.

Always told my partner, that if our kids become as nerdy and weird, as I was, that I will sent them in some kind of self-defense course.

In the first line of that post I read saved as shaved, my bad lmao

I was picked on more by boys, but girls were worse because not only would they not let up as easy, they always misinterpreted my reaching out to them as romantic interest, which made them pick on me more, probably as an emotional defense against my "unwanted advances". (I was always nice to my bullies because I didn't know any better, so whereas the boys eventually left me alone either out of frustration or guilt, the girls remained wary)

Girls.

Boys always used to be nice to me. Not so much these days though. In person they used to be until I put loads of weight on. It is why most of the friends I have made were male until I did not want to have sex with them, then the friendships fell apart. Also I had big boobies (34DD cup back then and now 40 FF) so men seemed to be a bit obsessed with them. They would hold entire conversations whilst staring at my cleavage. At least I didn't have to worry too much about eye contact!

Partners were obsessed with fiddling with them. I used to respond with "it doesn't matter how much you twiddle my nipples you will not be able to tune in Radio BBC 1. You just won't get a good reception".

Girls do not like me. Girls spread nasty rumours about me. At school they said I was a lesbian so the boys thought I was gay and would not speak to me. In later life girls spread it around that I was schizophrenic because I posted about EVP (I was into parapsychology at the time...ie scientific explanations for paranormal events). I could not make them understand about pareidolia. After that the men on those sites started to avoid me as they believed I was psychotic.

Also a group of girls once told police I was prostituting myself. I was not but was arrested anyway. The police realised their error and did not charge me with such but it was annoying all the same.

Girls are trouble makers. They tell lies to put boys off you and get you in trouble when you have not done any wrong.

It is partly why i do not like girly friends. Also I do not like typical girly activities much of the time and I do not wish to hang out in a pack all afternoon talking about hair styles.

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Definitely boys.

oh god, equally as bad by both genders

girls would spread rumours that i was a boy because i said i dont like being a girl, they also would mock me DURING class and call me ret*d and they would throw pencils and paper at me. A group of boys came up to me once and said they wanted to punch me in the face for no reason. they would say im not a real human being and take my drawing books and draw penises on all the drawings. This one girl took my hat and i lost my temper and beat her up. i hate school! i got plenty of racial slurs too for being Native American.

Boys were more open about their feelings (and their desire to see you drop dead) but I would say girls: they were just VERY subtle about it and of course never got physical.

I very physically assaulted many, many times throughout my teenage years but the bullies always knew when to stop so they didn't get into any serious trouble. However, once in Grade 9 I had a classmate snap and blindside me for no reason then started beating me as hard as he could (and he was BIG). He probably could have killed me if not for the class clown (A big, tough black kid) who jumped in, grabbed him and shook him violently until he stopped. Maybe it was because my classmates knew I had enough or maybe because someone FINALLY stood up for me (especially a "big tough black kid") but I was never physically bullied again after that.

Boys as far as I've noticed.

Both and teachers.

No big deal.