ZombieBrideXD wrote:
before, when i was younger, i didnt know i had to make eye contact, so my dad said if i want friends, i have to look at the,. so when i did, i felt this pain in my brian, its like all the sudden their speaking too fast or using to much of complex words, and it makes me tense and nervous. but now, after reading something on autism and eye contact, i know that its common for people with autism to have a hard time understanding, and looking at a person at the same time,
I can stare into people's eyes, however, it is weird to do. Do I focus each of my eyeballs independently on the other person's eyeballs ? "Eyeball staring" is weird.
It is said that NT people make eye-contact 30-60% of the time in a conversation. I could do that, however I would have to remember to do it. I would have to be thinking in my head, "Ok .. .ten seconds passed .. time to make eye-contact .. hold for three seconds .. now release .. look away ...repeat ".
It seems we do not have the inborn natural, comfortable, automatic eye-contact function.
I think on another level it is more comfortable for us not to look at people, not just the eye-ball. The theory-of-mind issue of not being able to magically understand what they are thinking supposedly, social cue problems, general social difficulties, sensory issues, and possibly a negative temperament towards people because of bad treatment - may make it more comfortable as a coping mechanism to not even look at them.
My autism doctor told me to look him in the forehead. However, that feels odd and it is just to pretend to be someone I am not.
16 Dec 2013, 1:48 pm
