When a personality type maxes out your nervous system

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Is there a personality type that your nervous system has a hard time dealing with? There are two types of personalities that make me thoroughly (physically and psychologically) ill:

1. the emotionally unstable type (ready to tear you up one hour, and all kind and bubbly the next hour), and

2. the emotionally stable but psychologically abusive type (they don't yell but quietly play you like a chess pawn without you realizing it).

The emotionally unstable AND psychologically abusive type all in one person is absolute pure hell. If I have to be in close quarters with such people, my mind seems to latch on to their pattern of activity and I can feel every jolt of their personality in my cranium, sometimes even in advance of any action on their part. It's like anticipating their behavior prior to experiencing it, but living it with the full on feeling of it actually happening. Sometimes I also replay previous situations, which is equally painful.

I try to avoid these people but dread meeting others without immediately realizing it due to my mind blindness. Freaks me out.

What coping strategies do you have for dealing with people who tax your nervous system to the max?

This seems like an interesting discussion topic!

The personality type that bothers me the most are people who have absolutely no need for personal space, alone time, or down time. I'm not really sure what to call this personality, except maybe the "clingy and controlling" personality? These people make me feel ill after a very short time because they are literally the opposite of my personality, and I can only take them in short bursts. These are the people who sit right next to you all the time even if other seats are available, decide they need to go to the bathroom at the exact moment that you say you are going, insist on talking for at least an hour every time they call you even if you hardly say anything in return, always choose the activity that you are going to do together and will complain loudly on the rare occasions that they do let you pick, and need to be entertained 24/7 so they can never just sit down and relax (and they must always involve you in whatever activity they want to do, even if they have to hound you for two hours first to get you to participate). I spent a lot of time with someone like this when I was growing up and it was horrible!

I also dislike the emotionally unstable type that you mention. I'm usually okay with the second type that you mention, but mostly just because I can usually recognize what they are doing and don't fall for it. But sometimes they get me!

The "damsel in distress" type. Can't do stuff because they're female (disclaimer: so am I). Honest to gosh, one of my co-workers said she needed a man to get something off the top shelf of the cabinets. I got a step-stool and made it work.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't people like that perfectly capable of doing it, but get a rush out of manipulating others to do it for them? If their motives are manipulation (rather than them really being unable to get something, in which case helping them is fine), then I would agree that such tactics are pretty disgusting.

Cheerleader types. The kind who while maybe not actual cheerleaders are so gung ho superfun lets get this done! YAY! type girls. I don't know why. Probably because of my own experience with actual cheerleaders in high school and who were the only girls who were this way, although I was a majorette (way below them in the pecking order, not even worthy to sit at their table). Oddly enough, my youngest daughter has quite a bit of that personality type but she's loving and nice and thinks that hurting anybody's feelings or saying something rude to someone or about someone or not inviting someone is one of the worst things in the world. Because she likes everybody except mean people. She will totally freeze a mean person out of the room by a cold tone of voice and short but polite answers and no smile. Because they are mean. She's got a very rigid moral code and manners code. She doesn't want to offend anybody. Plus, she looks like a cheerleader. She really does. You'd mistake her for one if you saw her. She doesn't dress in the cheer outfits but she looks like a cheerleader. She doesn't bother me at all, I love her. But she's probably the only nice one of that type, ever.

(No offense if there is a nice cheerleader type or ex cheerleader here.)

She's so nice that people have actually questioned if she might not have been switched at birth with some nice lady's baby. I would think that too, but she was born at home, so nope.

I really have trouble with the type of "overly extroverted and friendly rhinocerosses". So you really know, that they are friendly and simply happy and in good mood, so you dont wont to risc to offend them and make them think bad about you. But I mean the type of people that have themselves no need of avoidance of personal contact, so they stomp in your office, causing you an heart attack, are talking so loud that its actually yelling for me and that I can hear them three rooms away, just as they always cause others to start conversations that disturb you, or often have no need of privacy in the way, that when they need to discuss something with you, they actually are so close, that you can feel their breath...

I know that they are friendly and mean it friendly, but these type of people, cause so much stress in me that I am actually shivering sometimes and need to hide after being forced to have contacts with them.

= bipolar



= sociopath

Manipulative I can deal with; some folks believe in their helplessness, when they are in fact perfectly capable; it's that tryp that drives me up the wall.

People who disrespect "free time".

The smiley, enthusiastic, aggressively happy and upbeat people. No one is that friendly and smiley without an agenda.

^^ This! ^^

I find the narcissistic personality type is the most evil and destructive of all. They can drain the life from you with a single glare.
If I ever encounter a narcissist I do all I can to run for the hills, and then further.

I can't stand people who are overly self-righteous, authoritarian, hyperactive, or masculine.

Being a semi extroverted autistic, I possess some of the more annoying traits mentioned.

As far as running whenever I encounter a narcissist, I wish. I have a tendency to over trust, which makes me very attractive narcissistic supply.

I have trouble with super-extroverted, super-chatty people who keep talking and talking and talking and talking. After a while, I feel panicky and feel as though I'm being smothered and need to flee, lest I start hyperventilating.

Hyperextroverts.
Manipulative people.
Clingies.
People who are unwilling to sit down, shut up, and think.
Liars.
Those who have no sense of personal space and privacy whatsoever.