Anyone Talk Too Loudly?

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My wife frequently tells me that I talk too loudly. Whether when speaking to her or the kids. She says the same, when I am speaking on the phone. When I was young, I remember my dad telling me to “modulate your voice”.

Usually, I talk loud enough, so that I can hear what I am saying. In other words, if I cannot hear what I am saying, I assume the same is true for others.

Does anyone else have problems “modulating” your voice? Is this a common thing for people on the spectrum? Just wondering.

I have been asked to quiet down a few times.

Sometimes, when I'm overly excited. Yeah.

My 10 year old has the same problem. He can't understand why everyone thinks he's too loud - he sounds fine to himself.
I have the opposite problem. I talk very softly, although it sounds normal to me. I finally taught myself to "shout" - to me it's very loud, but at least others can hear me.
Can you get used to talking in a voice that seems too soft or quiet to you? You should still be able to hear yourself.
Also, have you ever had your hearing checked? Just a thought. It might not have anything to do with the Asperger's.

I find that I sometimes speak too loudly when I'm trying to get a remark into a conversation before all the NTs can move on to another subject and wall me out. It's like I have to shoehorn my statement into the fray, or it will simply be ignored.

I have also noticed that when I get started talking about an obsessive personal interest, my voice will get gradually louder and more animated and passionate as I get energized about my subject, until it turns into a standup act.

i have a very powerful voice, when i get anxious/excited/ overwhelmed my voice gets really loud, i cannot control my voice volume, and i dont like other noises overpowering my voice if im talking to my sister. when im at home and calm my voice is normal though

I have a loud voice but so does my non-aspie dad. I figured I just got my voice from him. I actually think it's good because I've never had someone say "what?" over and over again like they do with my mumbling soft spoken sister.

I know you don't have to have a spectrum disorder to have a too-loud voice, just read about my BIL the doctor.

But didn't your parents ever tell you to use your "inside voice" when you were young and didn't people later on ever say "I hear you, you don't have to yell"? I sometimes wonder if being too loud is because the parents are loud or they just don't care enough to tell their kids to not yell.

It seems like this (talking loudly) could be a symptom of Sensory Processing Disorder <click>. I seem to have many of those symptoms as well.

It seems like there are a lot of similarities in behavioral symptoms between Aspergers and Sensory Processing Disorder.

Oy, my stepfather used to accuse me of talking too loudly all the time, even when we were in crowded, noisy restaurants where talking loudly is pretty much a necessity if you want to be heard at all. As a result, I don't talk much at all around other people as part of my social anxiety, and I hope he's proud of himself.

My mom comments how I talk so loudly sometimes and then I speak too softly other times. So yes--regulating the volume of my voice is a problem.

Sometimes, but extremely rarely now. It's definitely something I'm guilty of doing in the past, though. Nowadays I'm waaaaay more apt to catch someone else doing it than do it myself. It's usually my mother, but sometimes one of my brothers or sister - depends on who I'm around most, I guess. My mom seems to have the most difficulty realizing she's raised the volume of her voice and is coming across as hostile and shouting vs. being able to to calmly articulate whatever point she's trying to make. Hopefully she doesn't do this forever.. it doesn't really grate on me much because I know it and understand it well, but it doesn't bode well for helping her maintain her friendships with others if she can't get that and other things under control.

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

Always too loud and monotone.

Yes absolutely, my wife asks me all the time why I am talking so loudly.

I've been told that all my life
Sometimes I talk very very quietly to compensate that.
My father has a loud tone as well but he hasn't learned to talk quietly to compensate