My life

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Before signing up I roamed around this site and saw post/ people that sounded exactly like me.

Background.
29 male
1. I think I have had Mild OCD my whole life. Repeat things to myself since I was a child, if someone adjusts my seat in the car or adjusts a mirror It will take a couple days till I feel it is In the right spot and will Scratch myself under my nose till I feel it's right. It does not effect my life though.
2. Officially have ADD since a child
3. Officially/ unofficially have Aspergers. People have told me I have Aspergers and my Psychiatrist thinks I do but, not officially written on paper. More on the mild side

Anyways here's my life.

I have 2 brothers and 1 sister all from different fathers. I am the oldest of my siblings and my parents got divorced when I was 2. I lived with my mother till a 1 1/2 ago till I got married and have a close relationship with my dad.

As a child I had lots of Friends. I always have been diagnosed with ADD. Everything changed once I started High School. In high school I was very quiet, only had a few friends and was bullied. I also always argued with my mother.

After High school I would still argue/scream constantly with my mother. I though my mother never loved me the same as my other siblings. I hated my life struggles because I could never do what I wanted. Hated that I never went to collage to study what I really wanted to do because it was to hard for me. Also never had interaction with girls.

One day around when I was 20 my mother best friend(she's a teacher) told my mother I act exactly like a child in her class. She though I had Aspergers. Till then I did not know what Aspergers even was or heard of it. I know I had some social issues but, did not know what it was.My mother started to think she was right everyone else in my family took it as a joke and started making fun of the name including my father. I went online and looked it up numerous time and thought most of the symptoms did not apply to me. I though the lady was nuts. I even asked my General Doctor and he said no because I was too Social.

Fast forward till I was around 24.

1. Girls in my Life

I always though I would never get married or have kids. From around 16-early 20's I would go with my family to visit my Grandmother in Florida near Miami( lives in a condo on the beach). Every night all the Teen/ early 20's grand kids would go to the pool area and drink and smoke pot till 3 am every night. I drank too(never smoked pot) and hang out at the pool during the day. All the kids that tried too would hook up with girls. Make out on the beach or if you were lucky get them undressed. Even my brothers when they got slightly older would talk about what they did with what girl. Not once in the 7 or so years I went with my family would I hook up with a girl. I had no problem taking to the girls I did not find attractive. The ones I found attractive I was able to start a conversation with with no problem but, did not know how to take it to the next level. Some times I came off as Socially weird.

I would go out with my Friend to the club( he does not have Aspergers) and the only way I could talk to a girl or dance with a girls was if I had drinks in me.. I never got there number.

One day my mother meet a women that had a daughter that had Aspergers. Wh had to wait like 2 years till she was 18. I was like 23-24 when she turned 18. We want on a date and this girl was out of her mind. She told me she did not want a guy that just wanted sex and there were multiple Gods in the world. We never meet again.

I went out with a few more people. Even one I want out 3 times but, after the third date she told me I acted weird after the 2 date and was giving me a Second try but now it's over.

I thought I would never get married.

When I was 26 this family I knew set me up with a women. For religious reasons we date for 3 months and had a 6 month engagement. We did not life together till we got married. Thing was I know she had problems but not how bad. ADD, Anxiety, Depression, sleep Disorder ,IBS and Allergies. We been married about 16 months

During this time my sister saw a 2 hours video at school about Aspergers and thought I had it. Also I started seeing a new Psychiatrist and I told her people though I have Aspergers and she said when you walked in the room that's what I though. It started to make me think again do I have Aspergers? Everything I saw online was. Me. Walk funny, bullied, social Issues, big interest in weather and reptile(living with my mother I had 6 fish tanks,4 lizards,8 frogs and a Turtle), ask people to repeat things, long winded conversations. Great long term memory.

Me and my wife argue. I think it more me then here. I screen. Even after I went to Anger Managment I still scream. One of the reasons I get so frustrated is I think my wife does not understand me fully and the Aspergers. We do not have sex often because when I scream she shuts down because her depression. We can not have kids because she is on medicine. And she says she needs no more screaming before She will start to get off the meds. I feel she does not understand me.

My job.

I started a good job 8 years ago. At the first location. I was bullied by a man. He called me all racialstuff and every name in the book for 2 years and then just stopped. I think because my Aspergers I was not able to get the courage to report it.Like a year later I volunteered to transfer to another location in the area. From the start the same thing from another guy. Every curse word and degrading thing in the book. Dumb nuts, retardough, dumb Bo and more. Finally I could not take it anymore after 2 years. I screamed at him in front of everyone in the lunch room. Our manager told him to stop of there would be serious consequence.

This last year my supervisor has be harassing me about everything I told higher officials and he makes me do the work no one else wants to do.

That's my life

Thanks for sharing. It's interesting just how pervasive Asperger's can be in someone's life. It practically dictates and defines all behaviours. You can't make a move without it affecting your judgment. Problems with your mate and your job can easily be traced back to it. I didn't know any of this until I was diagnosed and researched the subject. All I can do for me is to hope, from here on out, I gain the knowledge to say the right things in social settings and to try as be normal as possible when encountering the world.

This is about why I hate the idea of psychiatric labels. Everyone soon starts to treat you like an object rather than a person once you have one.

There are jerks in the world though. If they can't accept who you are, abandon them.