People scoffing at your diagnosis

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I keep hearing people mention how person x said "Autistic people are x y,z but you are a, b c". What if the lions share of such people are just trying to be nice. It might just be their way of trying to deflect tension. I know that when a friend told me that they believed themself to be ugly I felt compelled to say "oh but a b and c prove that you're attractive".

Im wondering if NT's are coming from the same perspective. They see autism as a disability and just feel that they ought to try and make you feel "better about yourself".

You're probably very close to the truth. Those terrible ads by "Autism Speaks" are geared to drum it into NTs that this is a terrible thing to be diagnosed with. So NTs just want to reassure you that they don't see you rocking in a fetal position in the corner, repeating "it's about a hundred dollars" over and over.

I feel like I just scored a basket from the other end of the court uh oh but self doubt is hot on the heels of success. If im capable of thinking like an NT...

I assume that the "you can't possibly be autistic" reactions result from a mixture of misinformation about autism and my own ability to cover up my symptoms. Not from ill will. At least until proven otherwise.

The first thing can be fixed.

The second is trickier.

I get that a lot in a positive way on the two big teen forums I'm on.
idk if it is just because it doesn't show on text or they are trying to
be nice. But I think they are genuinely impressed with me. It's the
first time in my life I've been one of the cool kids XD.

Now in real life, it's pretty obvious that I am autistic. Even though
I am a lot more responsive, I still have a lot of the classic traits.
Most ppl conclude I'm autistic or think I'm ret*d.

some co-workers of mine say i dont have autism im just ratty and awkward.

it isnt a 'NT thing' its a social rules thing.
yes people do tend to bring out a whole lot of face palming from the autistic and overall disabled communities when they do this as they cannot understand the concept of disabled people having a good quality of life,we are supposed to be sat drooling in institutions,doped up on horse tranqs and having our head patted by people who pity us.
autism is a disability,but disability just means a person is experiencing significant barriers with coping in an environment not designed for them.

we challenge peoples understanding and this in turn makes them and their poor education on disability uncomfortable.
despite being severely autistic and learning disabled [UK definition] am also one of those who gets these comments to due to being very caring,not smearing sht all over the walls and having a lot to say for self when switching the computer on to type.

If they doubt me, what I do is say, "Oh wait, I need to check my Droid now because I need to update all my apps. I mean I just love apps. You know what I mean? It's almost romantic. I mean, apps rock. Frankly, my apps are more dear to me than my own family members because I can predict and control my apps, but as for my family they are too unpredictable for me to feel comfortable with them. You know, all that human stuff. So illogical. Makes me want to hide in a dark room." Then I look up at them all and say, "You understand, right?" Then I look down at my phone and say, "Yeah here come the updates. It makes me think of the color yellow. Apps are the bomb." Then I walk away.