smiling at inappropriate times...

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every now and then, i go through phases where i end up smiling amid serious conversation. it is quite embarrassing and all it does is cause the other person to smile. is this to do with autism / AS? Does anyone else have this problem and are there ways of combatting it?

chris

Yes that happens to me and laughing. Some one close to died and when I went to talk to a person about it - I started laughing instead.

yes, I laugh smile and/or cry during serious conversations.

I think it's nerves.

Yeah, my mum comes into my room while I'm emailing my friend, so while she's talking about whatever, I'm laughing at summat my friend said. Well, I ain't gonna stop doing what I'm doing to listen to my mum talk about boring crap that doesn't even affect me, am I?!

I tend to do that too sometimes and I never understood why. I have gotten better with that kind of thing overall though.

I myself struggling not to laugh when talking about gruesome things or death. I don't find any of this funny at all, but it seems like I'm forced to associate these topics with humor when I state them aloud.

In addition, I tend to daydream a lot and laugh from a serious face during a class or while walking down the hallways at school when I think about something amusing. There's a group of people who think that I'm going to turn out to be a school shooter for this reason...

Sea_of_Saiyan wrote:

At work I got the comment a couple times that I would be the guy to go postal (this hasn't been said recently though). I'm not sure why, I do not have any desire to go postal. Maybe it's from my strange expressions, or stares, or maybe becuase I am quiet and I take on the heady difficult tasks. You know, they always say it is the quite ones with alot of stress. I think they're just making fun though.

I also have found myself smiling a lot during serious moments. I think it's nerves, like someone else said. I think I have it under control now.

Same here (except the school shooter part ), I laugh at my own thoughts or at funny stuff on the internet or TV when nobody's around, but never really thought of it as too strange cause I don't do it when I'm talking to someone.

This thread kinda makes me remember at school like maybe 6th grade time or so someone would do something kinda funny, and pretty much everyone would laugh, then the laughter would die down and I'd randomly laugh like a few seconds later and then maybe inspire someone to laugh again and then I'd go again, but I could NOT control it for the life of me and was always the worst offender It was especially inappropriate cause I always seemed so guilty or something with my laughter spasms I'm not sure though if it had more to do with me finding the class so goddamn boring or actually a laughter control issue, hey the world might never know either.

As a kid and teen I used to smile out of nervousness whenever I got reprimanded by someone (I think I may still smile when I get nervous, though if I do I can't remember having done it recently). That little quirk gave me hell as a kid. Like I would be getting chewed out by a teacher in the hallway, I smile, and then they would usually blow up at me ("do you think this is funny?!"). Same thing with my parents. Also, it sucked whenever I got accused of lying because even though I was almost always telling the truth (as an aspie lying isn't exactly something that I do often) I would start smiling and then everyone would always be like "oh, look at him, he's smiling! he's lying for sure!".

The funny thing is that after watching Gran Turino I learned that it's apparently the social norm for Vietnamese (and I would guess most southeast Asians) to smile when they're being confronted by someone. It's frustrating knowing that a behavior that got completely misinterpreted here would have been normal somewhere else. It's also frustrating to know that a lot of my other odd behaviors and postures would be considered normal in Asian countries as well. Sometimes I think my problem is that I was born in the wrong culture lol.

I remember at a wedding me and my sister couldnt stop giggling - right when they was saying the vowels and doing the kiss thing.

This often happens to me. I'll be walking down the street or sitting on public transport or some such by myself and suddenly remember something funny, resulting in my suddenly grinning broadly or visibly fighting not to laugh.

It happens to me a lot. I'm not nervous, but I think it happens if I'm stuck for words if I'm supposed to say something serious. If someone told me they had cancer I'd probably grin at them I've often smiled, or worse when people tell me someone has died. I don't find the situation funny in any way, just baffling how to handle it. But of course people think I'm sick or something because I smile inappropriately.

Sometimes when extremely upset, I'll start laughing. Others then naturally assume there's nothing wrong after all.

I do that a lot. Especially during arguments.

I also smile, nearly everyday, at an inappropriate time, & I don't seem to show any emotion at all when I am happy.

Yup. That's a common this with people with AS. I do that too. also if someone gets hurt or makes a mistake I laugh. I don't do it to be mean, it's just how i respond. I don't even mean to do it.