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*Warning, a little gross*

When I was a little kid, I would get bouts of constipation about once or twice a year, and would often end up really sick. During these times, it felt to me like my mom would get mad at me for being constipated, even though it wasn't my fault and I wasn't holding my bowel movements in to be naughty. Once when I got constipated, I got really sick one night, and started vomiting, and my mom finally started showing some sympathy, rubbing my back and cooing, "Oooh, poor LtlPinkCoupe; no wonder you were so sick...." and then I felt upset because she hadn't been this nice to me before, when my constipation started.

Then, over winter break, I was telling my older stepsister about one time when I got really sick like this before my mom and stepfather's wedding, and they both got mad at me and were yelling at me about how they were going to take me to the hospital if the medicine didn't start to work on the morning of their wedding, but then it started working finally and we went to their wedding with no problems. I concluded with, "Yeah, every time I got sick like that, my mom got really mad at me, even though I didn't get sick on purpose." My stepsister then said, "Do you suppose that your mom wasn't really "mad" at you, she was just really frustrated and worried because you were so sick and she didn't know what to do or what was wrong?"

That hadn't really occurred to me before, and it got me thinking....did my mom REALLY always get mad at me for having constipation, or did I just not realize that she was just feeling frustrated and helpless due to my difficulties with perspective taking and theory of mind?

What do you guys think?

I have been told similar things so it's quite possible that your stepsister got it right.

This is possible. Although after an incident of me asking my mom why she was mad at me she always made it clear from then on that she was not mad at me, just frustrated.

Its hard to tell the if between someone is frustrated with you personally or simply the situation surrounding you.

I don't think your mom was mad at you but you could ask her. Even now I am sure she might tell you. She might not even have been really yelling at you. Sometimes I think people are mad at me and yelling at me but they are really not. I just think they are because I get confused sometimes by how I perceive how they come across. I recently had to tell someone that I am very close to that he has to always let me know whether or not he is mad at me or just frustrated with his own stresses. He has been very good at letting me know once I told him and once he understood that it is very hard for me to tell whether he is mad at me or just frustrated. But that would be a great thing to ask your mom.

my mom would always get angry at me for getting sick and missing school, she would throw things around and yell and swear. im pretty sure thats anger

Rapidroy:

I have been living most of my life thinking, that people were mad at me, - when in fact, they were perhaps frustrated, - sometimes even on my behalf, - or simply occupied with own personal problems and general frustration.

eat alot of prunes. drink prune juice if you can handle it. your mom will feel better.