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My 13 year old son ha Asperger's and seems to constantly slip into "tv" talk when he comes home from school. I know that he does this as a release and needs the chance to relax, but it is really disruptive to our family at times and I can't seem to help him to understand when it is appropriate and when it isn't. We have told him that his room is his safe place and that he can stim as much as he needs in there. When with the family we've told him that he can quote a few phrases but if it goes on for 5 min then he has done too much. I worry because he gets so wound up--and he is ADHD so with out the aid of his meds (they are worn off in the evening) he can really get out of control. Can anyone give us some advice to help him find the release he needs but in a way that won't strain his relationship with his neuro-typical sister? She is younger and it is really hard to keep peace when he gets too out of control. She knows that he is an aspie but to a 9 year old all she knows is that the won't stop "driving her crazy." We love him so much and want him to be happy. I want all of us to feel comfortable in our own home. Any advice? thank you.

i have echolalia, it was worse when i was younger, theres a video i have of me saying "its not on" about 10 times and also "i wanna have a picnic" 5 times. now its progressed to being repeated in my head. its uncontrollable to me. please be understanding that this is in a way enjoyable to quote TV quotes, whether its the way it sounds or the meaning behind it. my dad always lets me repeat what i just heard, so i dont know how i can help you.

I don't know if I have a touch of Echolalia or not but I often find myself repeating phrases in my head or whispering them. They are either phrases I have said to someone else or phrases that someone else has said to me that make me feel good. I never really paid attention to this or thought anything of it until I learned about Echolalia here on WP. When I do it I don't know if it is voluntary or not. I just seem to do it without thinking about it so maybe that is a form of Echolalia. But I know that it makes me feel good, it's actually quite soothing. I am sorry that it drives your daughter nuts because that is difficult too. Perhaps you can encourage your son to whisper his echoes very softly under my breath like I do. I have always done it so that no one else could hear me, or to do it in his head like I do sometimes also. That way he can do it as much as he needs to to comfort him and not weird out anyone else. Hopefully this can help.

This reminds me of a kid in class who kept repeating the same line over and over
until I punched him in the arm and gave him a cross look and he attacked me with
a pencil lol. But anyways I realize now i should have tried to detract him. I'm pretty
nonverbal but I do something like that when im alone with my cousin sometimes
and he will start saying things to make me laugh so i will stop yammering nonsense

I used to have echolalia when I was a kid. I outgrew most of it when I started receiving treatment for it and I outgrew 99% of it when I was ten years old. I worked extremely hard to get rid of it because I didn't want other people to hear my thoughts. It still returns if I have a bad fever. I sometimes have words and phrases bouncing around in my head and I sometimes quietly whisper words to myself when I'm alone. Lately I haven't even been doing those two things either.

thank you for the kind responses! I'm wondering if encouraging him to whisper his tv talk would help him have his release and yet keep the peace with his sister. that's a great idea. I appreciate the input from you all. Especially the two teenagers--it's good to hear how others his age feel. my son isn't always able to explain his feelings. he does try but sometimes it's hard for him to articulate what's going on in his head. generally he's a really happy guy and I'm thankful for that. keeping he and his sister happy with each other is sometimes a challenge! but all siblings go through this--just part of life.

We are really glad to help and welcome to WP. There is also a great forum here for teens. Perhaps your kids would like to be on it if you feel it is okay for them. Siblings of Spectrumites have found lots of help here too on how to understand and relate to their brothers and sisters. But we are glad to have you here.