Initiating a conversation (Any tips?)

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I tend to have a very hard time initiating conversations with people. It's weird though, because I have no problem doing that to people sitting next to me (I'm in high school), but getting up and talking to someone else is hard for me. There's this one girl in two of my classes that I would like to get to know, and I've talked to her on occasion (usually just brief 1-2 min conversations), but she sits about 3 seats behind me in one class, and on the other side of the classroom in the other. Judging from what I've heard and seen, she seems like a good fit, she is somewhat similar to me behaviorally, and her and I share a very similar political view (Libertarianism), but I feel it would be awkward to get up and walk over to talk to her. What do you think? Any tips? I'm not sure what she thinks of me, but she doesn't dislike me. Tips and suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

It doesnt have to be elaborated talk, if she's interested in you she will enjoy the conversation. Just go to her and ask her how is she doing, how was her week-end. ect

Do you want to date her or just be friends? I can't say for certain whether this would come across as too bold (I'm female and have never been in a relationship) but you might just go up to her and ask if she wants to go for coffee sometime, or perhaps to an upcoming school dance if you enjoy those sorts of things. If you'd rather, tell her you and a group of friends are getting together to do X and ask if she wants to come. The next time you have a group project, see if she wants to be partners, or just find her in the cafeteria and ask if you can sit by her. There are plenty of pretexts by which to get together with someone you like, you just have to keep an eye out for the opportunities as they present themselves.

I would like to just be friends for now. My goal is just to get to know her better and then see what happens from there.

I'd go for it.

Tell her you'd like to get to know her better; tell her why. Maybe you'll feel a bit uncomfortable, maybe you'll blush

What's the worst that could happen?

What's the best?

Thanks for the advice! I have been able to talk to her, however I noted that it's not so much initiating the conversation as it is doing it when others are around. I can talk to her when everyone else leaves without a problem, it's just when we are still in class and everyone is there that it becomes difficult for me. Any advice on this?