Therapist wants to transfer me and suggest "reality the

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Just started going to this new therapist. During the 2nd session he indicates before the session that he was talking to other colleges about different treatment plans. He wants to transfer me to another therapist. He had a breif discusion with me. It seems (if I read between the lines), that I'm not "connecting" to people.

Seens it's hard for me to find help. It this common for treatment professionals to have an aversion to treat us?

Hmm. Well, I've never seen a therapist shy away from patients, but I haven't lived very long, and most the therapists I've had were good, and those who weren't good were okay. But I've lived in one state pretty much all of my life, so I don't know much about how people with ASD are treated by professionals in other places.

I guess it works both ways. If the therapist doesn't want to treat you, for whatever reason, he has the right to refuse you. Similarly, you can refuse a therapist if he doesn't seem a suitable fit to your needs.

That would bother me a lot, but I know I'd be better off being taken care of by someone who wanted to do that rather then meeting with someone who did not want to meet with me. People finding me weird and not wanting to be around me upsets me tremendously, I don't think it would be good for me to be around someone who didn't, that would not be therapy at all.

Is it possible, though, that the transfer is just to someone better equipped to work with you successfully because this person does care about you, wants you to be successful, and believes the change is in your best interest?

Maybe he doesn't have much experience dealing with people with autism and thinks someone else might be better equipped to advise you. It doesn't sound to me like it's necessarily that he has any personal issue with you, he'd only seen you once before. As for "reading between the lines," we're usually not too good at that. I think I'd take it at face value - he seems to feel that a different counselor might be better suited to address your specific needs.

If that's the case, he's probably right - better that he transfer you to somebody that can have some positive benefit, rather than continuing to see you himself and waste your time.

Honey, give that baby cakes a big sloppy smooch on the face!

THE THERAPIST GAVE YOU A GIFT!

Instead of wasting your time and money, he's telling you UPFRONT, he can't really help you. You know how many therapist/doctors will string you along? Ripping off your time and insurance money. After 3 months, when they are finally fed up, and don't consider the payment worth the aggravation, kick you to the curb?

Therapy is alot like dating. Just like the wrong boyfriend/girlfriend can make your life a living hell, so can a mismatch with a therapist. I've had this happen to me.

I see nothing but positive here.

Ive been bounced around some to others more qualified to deal with my particular situation, or some claptrap like that.

Just to give more information, he hasn't officially diagnosed me with aspergers/autism (whatever it's called nowadays). When I mentioned my theory of this to him (my past behavior as well as how almost all of the characteristics of my personality align with the DSM for aspergers). He simply said something like, you know based on the symptoms of autism I (the therapist himself) fit all of those characteristics. He goes on to say, people are so different you can't really stuff everyone in a disorder?

Anyway my title was cut off in the OP I made he wanted someone to try "Reality Therapy".

Based on my research on this therapy type it seems to have something to do with dealing with those who had poor past relationships and getting a person to "connect emotionally".