Do you find most of your friends are introverts?

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When I am getting to know people for the first time usually it's the extroverts who approach me. But over time I notice the friends that remain tend to be introverted. All my close friends are introverts. And the extroverts I am friendly with tend to be very nice and accepting people with some taste for serious conversation What has been your experience?

all of mine are also intelectualy disabled which removes our understanding of social rules and social awareness so we tend to look sociable and extroverted as we dont care being around other people nor do we have the same understanding about how to aproach others,those of us with autism on top tend to have interaction difficulties so on the outside may look comfortable around other people but will struggle with interaction, using and understanding speech and language etc.
most of mine look extroverted, only one doesnt because she is intelectualy disabled and blind so is afraid of people and acts quiet apart from to us/her friends and her husband,in reality she is an extrovert but her experiences with people make her act introverted.

The same. Almost all my friends are introverts (I'm an introvert too). I think it's because the extrovert ones like to go out and do something all the time, and since I don't want to join them, they find another friend who likes it too. Extrovert-extrovert friendships are more common.
About long term, I also believe introverts tend to value friendships more and make deeper and more lasting bonds. Extroverts have 20 friends, introverts have 2 great friends.

Friends?

all my friends are either severely autistic or mildly autistic, my one childhood friend is impulsive and has many many friends

Most of my friends are extremely extroverted (that doesn't include my Wrong Planet friends).

I'm down to two friends. One introvert, one extrovert.

I prefer spending time with my introverted friends over my extroverted ones because they are less draining to me.

That's probably because introverts finds it harder to get friends, and therefor they value the friendships they have more.

I have both. The positive thing about extroverts is they are usually good at keeping a conversation going, so you won't have to worry about it. The bad thing is that they make it harder to stay in the background (which is only bad if you want to be left alone).

What friends?

Most of my friends are/have always been extroverted.

However, my CLOSE friends usually wind up being introverted, although I have had a few extroverted close/best friends.

The only way I wind up getting close or even getting to know an introvert is by living near them (living in the same dorm, apartment complex etc), otherwise we probably would have never met. On top of that, living in close proximity to each other makes it so that our friendship actually lasts and grows, because otherwise neither of us would go out to see each other often.

Extroverts on the other hand always show up at my place, sometimes unannounced, and they will either just hang out with me or want to go out and do something.

I like having friends that are both, because if I hung out with an introvert I'd never do anything out of the box or exhilarating in terms of a social scene. However, hanging out with an extrovert too much can drive me crazy and get me stressed out until I shut down and begin to avoid them.

An introvert is hard to hang out with because they'll hardly ever want to go anywhere, even to places I consider low stress like movie theater, bookstore or library.

Mine are mixed.

I haven't observed this rule and almost all extroverts I know have close, long-term friendships. It was even an extrovert who first told me how many friends turn out to be fair-weather and how rare true friends are. Perhaps it looks that way because it's harder to spot extroverts with their truly close friends, since they seek out more social interaction and are around more people. I've met introverts who care little to nothing for friends or the friends they have.

I don't believe "you're all I have" is a measure of depth so much as necessity, anyway...

Perhaps the opposite is true and it's the extroverts who have the deepest, most enduring friendships with those close to them. Out of all the people they meet that they could potentially rely on, trust, and let in emotionally, a select few have been chosen for the inner circle and to be seen on a regular basis because they just can't stay away.

A few things:
1- based on what I observe extroverts do have close friends, but differently. For instance, an extrovert may have 20 friends divided in 5 groups of 4, and each time is closer to one group or another. It would be humanly impossible to nurture so many relationships at once in a deep level.
2- I really mean deep relationships, not "you're all I have". You assumed introverts are socially inept, and that's totally not true. Sometimes it's even difficult to spot the introverts since they can be very socially skilled, but after that they need alone time.
3- Introverts can choose those to be in the inner circle too

Perhaps we are talking about different concepts of introversion. Introvert is not socially unskilled.

Based on the extroverts I know and the ones I've been close friends with for years, they have individual close friends - some of them of years or decades. Those are always close whether or not they spend much time where they originally met them or with a larger group of high school classmates, current or former coworkers, cosplayers, or drinking buddies. They're not a different species that doesn't require the emotional support and reliability of close, long-term friendships, surviving instead only the rush of group activities and crowds.



I never made that assumption, I was saying that spending more time and energy on fewer people doesn't signify depth when there are few people to begin with.



Duh. But if the thread has already reached the usual "introverts have fewer friends and therefore like the people close to them more" rationalization, then why not post a similar one for extroverts?

Hmm I think your answer was quite rude... Why saying for instance duh as if I was an idiot?
Okay, I have a different view based on different experiences. I too have extrovert friends from childhood but what I observe is different.
I never said extroverts don't need friends or emotional support or that they are a different species.
By your previews answer when you said that introverts have few friends so they form bond from necessity rather than choosing it seemed like they didn't have skills to make friends and had to stick with whom they found. That's what it seemed, if you didn't mean it please explain. If you did mean it then fine, we have different views, that's all,