Lack of empathy and respect

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One thing that aggravates me is that a lot of people in society decide that they have the right to treat someone like absolute garbage if that person has a disability, especially a "mental disability". There have been several instances when I've had to remind someone that they don't have the right to be rude or downright abusive just because I'm not like them.

How do you deal with people who choose to be a**holes?

I tell them off. I don't care who they are. I wouldn't recommend it. I can't seem to help it though.

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The first thing I would do to someone who is being nasty or rude to me is try to get away from them. I would also try to control my anger and either ignore them or think about something else. There are unpleasant people that I encounter in my everyday life but I try not to let them get to me or affect me negatively. They are usually people whom I don't even know and will never see again. If they are family and I can't get away from them then I will try my best to act positively towards them in hopes that they will in return act positively towards me.

The key is to learn to hold yourself in such manner of seriousness and calm that no one would dare call you names. This takes some practice. Work on this with your therapist. It's changed my life.

I tend to deal with them by very calmly and seriously asking them if their mommy and daddy shared the same crib. Probably not the best idea but I see no reason to show respect to those who don't show me respect.

When I care deeply for the other person, it's maybe different. For the rest of the world, they unfortunately can behave however they choose. Unless you are in a position to enforce good behavior, the more you show you care, the more difficulty they are likely to cause you. The only way to deal with them is by not caring they don't afford you dignity, and finding dignity inside you and believing you have dignity and deserve to feel it whenever you are around them.

They're unlikely to change much. They are probably doing the same thing to many, many others. I can't tell you how often I feel tortured by someone and eventually learn how deep in them the ugliness goes. If they are torturing you, they may be tortured as well, and they are almost certainly not singling you out alone.

You deal with them by respecting yourself and by trying to be around others who respect you as much as possible.