Processing the emotions of others

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How long does it take you to process the emotions of others? Say someone is hurt. Does it take you a few days to realise that the person is hurt and may need help? Is there a time lag for you?

Usually I just stand there frozen like "is somebody going to help him?" It's not that I don't care I just can't care.

Probably about as quick as everyone else. I just choose to avoid emotionally demanding people.

It does not take me long. But I have the impression that it's a much more conscious process of analyzing than for more neurotypical people.

I don't take much time to process their feelings. I just get overwhelmed by the demands their feelings will put on me now. If it's my parents though, I'm better at reacting because I love and genuinely care about them. But when it comes to other people I feel "forced" to help them even if I don't care about what they're going through sometimes. I'm a really bad listener when it comes to hearing someone cry to me or complain to me, but if someone were hurt then I'm good at reacting to that.

If it's something that could be guessed from their actual words or actions, then I can pick up on it. If it's more subtle (someone is asking the same question again and again because they're seeking validation, not an answer), I'll miss it.

I have to remind self that people have emotions, trouble understanding.