Do parents understand?

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No matter what i say, my parents won't listen to my view.As you all know,i am an aspie.

What are you guys talking about?

No, they wont
they wil try to, very hard
they will even think they do, but they are just trying very hard, because they love you

ultimately,
you must realise that you do not listen to them
and try even harder

I still havent forgiven my parents for their actions. but i have no doubt that they were only doing what they thought was best.

Until you have any proof to the contrary, its probably best to assume they're doing what they think is right. They do not have a set of instructions to follow. The one piece of advice i wish i had given myself when I was still living there is, "have open and honest conversations". perhaps a certain level of self-awareness would be needed for that to have been effective, but nonetheless i think it is good advice.

As an NT parent to an ASD 12 yo, I try really hard to listen and understand him. Sometimes I get it right, sometimes I don't. But I certainly am trying.

My parents don't understand me because they're NT and I'm on the spectrum. I need to know that I'm accepted as I am and I know my mum accepts me now. I still don't expect for her or my dad to understand me.

They don't have to put themselves in our shoes, but at least be accepting of the issues we have. Mum served up some falafel for dinner, and it was spicy. To her it wasn't, my brother, or my dad, and I explained that I liked them, but couldn't eat them because they were spicy, and she came up with the same old argument "SPICY? THAT'S NOT SPICY! IT'S JUST HERBS!"

No it's not, it's spicy, I love herbs and flavour in my meals, but not spicy. I explained today that I have a sensory problem because of Aspergers/Autism, and my brother and mum argued against it, and my brother came up saying "sensory is your skin, you're not sensory sensitive"

He's so stupid. Nobody in this house wants to accept that I'm different, that's all they need to do, accept. Not argue, no need to understand because they never will, just accept, and I think that the OP feels the same about their parents too, to just accept.

Well, mine didn't understand and it took me years to undo the screwed-up upbringing they gave me.

Apart from all the religious stuff that they tried stuffing into my mind they failed totally to socially prepare me for the outside world and, when real problems started to surface, they just described it as "God's wrath as punishment for my sins" and left it at that.

I'm glad that they're gone.

I had a dream
I was in an enormous swimming pool
I could swim forever,
but the swimming pool was divided into tiny little sections
I kept swimming trying to cross over
but the closer i got the further away the swimming pool got

My parents don't really understand me; they don't make the effort. This despite the fact that my mother bought me out of my autism.

Mt parents really in their heart of hearts believe that they understand me and that they accept me. They also do not believe that I am disabled in any way shape or form no matter what I tell them. It's like they have a shield preventing them from understanding. They hear the words but argue and refute me and say that I don't know how I feel or that I can't remember the reality of how my life was when I was little and argue that my life is not really what I think it is like and that I only want people to agree with me in what I think I feel and go through. This hurts me to the core but I know that they love me and would anything in their ability to help me however they can. They have demonstrated that time and time again. But for some reason they refuse to even acknowledge that I have Asperger's or Misophonia and that I have struggles every day because of that.

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